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As many of you know, my son LnH has been through the emotional meat grinder in fighting the ex to see his son...just like most people here.
Whilst the legal process took it's time and it's toll on all parties concerned , we left court knowing that the little boy would see his daddy on a regular basis.
The ex, who I intensely dislike, however has either had a lobotomy or someone has read her the riot act.
For the last 2 weeks, the SMS exchanges between my son and her are very pleasant, handover even more so and the effect that this has on my grandson is palpable.
All the more astonishing that the ex asked my son if he could have the boy today as she is ill and obviously he jumped at the chance, drove up and collected the little one.
Once back home, my son made himself a cuppa and when he walked back into the room , my grandson held out his 2 little hands
for his daddy to pick him up and comfort him during the teething pain.
I am so overwhelmed by this feeling of utter joy that my grandson reaches out for his daddy....it's amazing what 2 little hands can do....
which shows that there is a close bond between father and son.
Whilst I don't believe for one minute that this peace between my son and his ex is going to last forever, I have, for today, decided to live in the moment and share this with you.
Take care
Kirsten
That's great news. Magical moments like that must make it all worthwhile.
Fingers crossed this is the start of a new, better, chapter in your lives.
Kirsten - that's awesome. So pleased for both you and LNH - and of course your grandson 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂
...some women do back down when they realise they can't win! Well done to you all!
After all that's happened, it's great to hear. Happy for you all 🙂
Thank you all 🙂
It was so unexpected....still can't believe Sunday happened.
But the ex has been rather pleasant, as I said...she must have had a lobotomy or someone
read her the full riot act....hey...I am not complaining.
She even sends a picture of the boy to LnH every now and then with a friendly caption.
I can't see this lasting forever but we will cross that bridge when we come to it....
Take care
Kirsten
This is great news. Its the best feeling when my lad wants cuddles he is also 2. Happy for you all.
Hi all...
It gets even better....:)
Last Saturday LnH picked up his boy as arranged and when he stepped through the door
with his son on his arm, the little boy took one look and broke out in the most beaming smile
ever known to man.
He clearly knows who his daddy is, who we are and that he is a much loved and cherished
member of the family.
It is all in the little details, for example, he knows what is going to happen when I bring in his high chair.
He gets all exited about food, eats absolutely everything and has the appetite to boot.
And...I have to say, he is much much more at ease since mum and dad stopped the hostilities, this has
had such a positive knock-on effect that even his nursery noticed a change.
In many ways he is the spitting image of LnH.....sometimes I just watch my son with his son, totally transfixed
and thinking back to when LnH was little.
As I said before, I am all too aware that it can change at a moments notice as the ex is known to change her
mind like the weather but hey, whilst the going is good I enjoy every moment of happiness the little one brings us.
Take care
Kirsten
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