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Looking for opinions on this situ please;
Shortened version...
Mum Dad and daughter living with in laws.
Grandmother (Dads mother) snoops into Mums diary and sees things written about her and the grandfather (written of course in the Mums words and the way she was feeling at the time)
Mum finds out that she has read the diary after recording a conversation grandmother had with her friend by leaving her phone hidden in the room.
Mum rightly is upset that her mother in law has looked at her personal stuff...moves out to her own mothers place.
Question...
Should the grandmother still be allowed to see the granddaughter?
Hi There,
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I can't see any reason why they shouldn't be allowed too see children, reading a diary doesn't suggest any harm would come to the children.
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GTTS
Thanks for the reply GTTS.
So that I am not being biased, grandmother was speaking to friend on recording...friend said Mum was neglecting kid (not true just words and out of proportion observation by friend - not the best friend of choice to have gone to advice for let’s say) and grandmother didn’t exactly challenge that to say no which meant Mum now believes grandmother thought that way too as she didn’t back her up...
Also Mum assumes grandmother gossips every time to other friends and family each time kid has been there since the incident...assumes being the exact word, no evidence just a belief...
Grandmother still should be allowed to see kid?
Hi There,
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I would say yes, can you honestly say that you have never said a bad word about someone behind thier backs?
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Also grandmother didn't dissagree but by the sounds of it also didn't agree or say much herself, so only really guilty of not defending rather than anything else.
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People will sometimes not challenge and keep quiet as it's easier.
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I'm not saying grandmother wasn't agreeing, but from the sounds of it, the recording is a one way comment that was against mother and wasn't from grandmother.
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Even if it was from grandmother, she hasn't done anything to place the children in harm, just voiced an oppinion, which the mother didn't like.
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This isn't just about grnadmother, it's also about the children and them having a relationship with extended family, if they don't see her they lose out.
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GTTS
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