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my ex and i have a 17 month old baby and i have only seen my daughter 2 long weekends in the last 6 months, she insists she is there to supervise me with my daughter due to my ex beleiving my daughter doesnt know me well enough. i have to travell 260 miles one way to see my daughter because they moved back to portsmouth. my ex has started a new relationship with another fella and has said i cant see her this week as they are busy all weekend and that she didnt see her new fella last weekend because i was vivsiting my daughter. so i have asked if i can see her next weekend and she has said yes but only 9 till 6 on saturday and they are busy on sunday (520 miles travell to see her for 10 hours). my ex has said that i need to comply with her terms set out and requires a minimum of 7 days notice to see my daughter. my ex wont even let me pick my daughter up and drop her off so i wont be dissrupting her plans. i dont like the idea that she is able to dictate to me when and when i cant see my daughter and feel she has controll over my relationship with my daughter. i need to know if she can dictate when and when i cant see my daughter? what happens in supervised visits in a center say? and does she have the right to insist my visits are supervised? please please help
bradders
Hi
I would say that it's reasonable that contact should be supervised until you have built up a relationship with your daughter, but what is not reasonable is that she is actively preventing you from building up that relationship.
You need to have a discussion with your ex about a mediated solution to this, and if mediation doesn't work (or she refuses to attend), then you need to be applying for a contact order. I would certainly say that you need to do this quickly as I can only see the situation getting worse now she has a boyfriend. The minimum 7 days notice is reasonable, but it works both ways - she should give you 7 days notice to cancel, and she needs to be reasonable when you ask, not fit arrangements exclusively around her personal life.
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