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Hi guys,
It's my first time on this forum so please go easy on me.
I shouldn't complain because I'm about to marry the wonderful girl of my dreams and we have a hopefully healthy new baby on the way later in the year too.
The only thing I could use some help on is - it's all happened very fast and sometimes the stress of taking on lots of new responsibilities at the same time has pushed me near or beyond breaking point (I even started a fairly tough new job this year, and moved house...). Planning to move in with my fiancee once we're married too...!
Pretty much all the new things in my life are really good, but dealing with the inevitable problems that come with good things is hard when there are just... so many!
How do you cope with stress and maintain a sense of humour? Advice, stories, anything gratefully accepted!
Hi
Welcome to the forum, wow it sounds like you are having a really busy time. 😮
Moving house, starting a family and getting married - research says these are 3 of the most stressful things to go through and you are doing them all at the same time. My advice would be give yourself a break ( god I sound like a hippy !), cover off one thing at a time.
- Getting married - It's fantastic to make this day special but it doesn't have to be everything you have ever wanted out of the day, it is about you and your partner forming a lifelong bond.
- Your job - can you work from home 1 day a week or even once every 2 weeks ? I find this helps ( I also do a stressful job)
- Moving & relationship - try going on a date once a month ( with your wife/fiancee of course 😆 ), it keeps the spark alive and lets you de-stress and have fun. It doesn't have to be anything expensive, a walk in the park with a picnic or a trip to the cinema.
It's fantastic that life is treating you well at the moment, embrace and try not to worry too much.
See you soon
Mags
Thank you mags!
The wedding was wonderful, the guests and all the supporters were so good to us! And my bride was very very beautiful.
Now we are sorting out our new house, then packing for the move, plus the honeymoon, then checking the ash cloud doesn't stop us...
Anyway the latest check up of the baby status was 100% good and the doc says we are free to fly. 
🙂 D P D
Hi 'Mr & Mrs' - great to have you on the forum. Hoping the ash-clouds haven't put pay to the flying!
My advice is get regular time 1:1 together and keep the honeymoon going forever.... Might sound easier now, but once little'n comes along, life and nappies soon take over....
Looking forward to updates - when is the baby due?
Cheers, Ron
Thanks Ron.
Baby is due in October. 2nd scan is coming up next week - the one where they can tell the [censored] of the baby. Not sure if I want to know ahead of time or not.
Hmmmm. Honeymoon was quite stressful actually, it was an ambitious travel plan and we were both pretty tired most of the time (still good though!).
Is there a section of the forum for expecting fathers? I.e. how to handle your pregnant partner 😉
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