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Hi wondered if anyone could give me some advice... my ex partner got with somebody else before we split up, ever since she has made my life [censored], We have a 2 year old daughter together and when we split she was ok with me seeing her, then as they got more serious she started making aruments with me etc and calling police when i used to go to pick her up if i said something she didnt agree with. The outcome from police was NFA as i never did anything wrong, her partner cannot stand me and has sent me numerous mesages etc saying he will ake sure i dont get to see my little one, she stopped all contact for nearly 7months before the court got me contact in a centre to get re-introduced, that went well and moved into the community for 2days per week with me hoping to move to overnight very soon. All was gong well, then April 2nights before i had a court date with regard to her residence order applicaton i saw her new partner with his friends in a pub, he has stalked me at work and tries to provoke me on every occasion he can to get a reaction, this night was no different, he was with around 5-6 friends and i was just with 1, he tried stubbing out his cigarette in my face as i left the pub and was shouting things like "how often do u see ur daughter i see her everyday" i ignored him and adviced my family solicitor who recommended not to go police to "rock the boat" with contact as it was going well. then last week i went to a carvery place and seen him with her and my daughter, he again started trying to provoke me and blowing kisses, winking etc in an attempt to get a reaction, i went over gave my daughter a kiss and said i will not argue infront of her, they then shouted things over implying i was scared of him and as she was leaving came over to me and told me not to bother collecting my daughter as i will not be seeing her, since then she has stopped contact again saying i was aggressive in front of my daughter when i did nothing wrong! to top it off i have since been called in by police and quiestioned on an allegation of harrassment by her new partner because of what took place that day, they are both doing this together to try and stop me seeing my little girl and it seems to be one thing after another, will the court take this into account with regards to my time with my daughter? im pushing for as much as possible as i love every second im with her, any advice would be appreciated, thanks.
Hi,
Have you kept a dated written account of what's happened? If not I'd encourage you to make a dated record of everything you can remember & save any texts or emails that prove what's been happening.
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