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Hi all,
Just feel the need to express how I am feeling at the moment. Putting it into words really does help me with dealing with situations.
It is my daughters 14th birthday tomorrow. She has planned activities at her mothers house with friends and because of the situation between her mum and I, I cannot be there to be part of the celebrations. I was hoping to spend time with all of my children in the evening but my daughter has arranged for two friends to have a sleep over.
It is the first time I have never been with one of my children on their birthday. It really hurts.
I will see them all on wednesday for a sleepover and that will be special. All too often you find that when the children live with their mother, there is no impact on that side of the family/friends as the only change is me being removed from the equation. My soon to be ex mother in law sees more of my children than what I do and so does my wifes circle of friends.
My family have very limited time with them and it really upsets my parents that they only see them once a fortnight.
I am thinking of buying a birthday cake for wednesday. Cooking a special meal and making the best of the evening with them. I just wish it was happening on her birthday and not the day after 🙁
...feel free to express you're feelings and I'm glad it helps.
Does your daughter have a mobile of tablet? Perhaps Skype or FaceTime would help a bit, ask her to send you some pics maybe.
I think a second party with cake and a special meal is a great idea though and at least your side of the family could get involved.
I guess in the scheme of things you shared many years of your daughters birthdays and although it might be small consolation pretty soon she will be of an age where she won't be spending her birthday with either of you!
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