[Solved] Just some advice please

How can you be a bad Dad for wanting to better your family?? I dont think your a bad Dad.

Is there any way you can work your schedule and not lose day per week, change it from a Monday?

Regards,

Dave

Because I will be effectively working from home. Eventually I think I may be able to work the odd day around but it may not be consistent!... The work I will be doing wont be based in one place it will be all over south-east and east Anglia. But after initial induction I may be able to manage the time to include the odd evening here and there.

But the role is predominately mon to fri.... I have always had this fear that unless I put my life on hold and do what my ex says she will restrict access to my kids... But I have got to a point in life that i cant hold my career back any more I have turned job offers down before in the past because of feeling guilty!.

All I want is to be a good dad and not let them down

I think your children are off an age to understand - you may find not having weekly contact difficult though do you have phone contact or face-time etc ?

if you explain to your ex that you want to make this transition as easy as possible for your daughters , maybe ask to have them after school for tea if you can't take to school in the morning at least you see them,

it's always tricky and for the 1st three years I had my children every weekend which I loved but I work full time and long hours so I was never able to do anything around the house as first year I was a single dad at the weekends with a 2 and 4 year old ... I hated suggesting a change to the routine as feared my ex would kick off I had always don everything she wanted but realised I had to start doing things for me which ultimately for the best for the children ...

You are no way a bad dad if you was it wouldn't even cross your mind ... best of luck

Ever since my ex and I seperated. I have called my girls every evening without fail. Thankyou for your kind words Eric. Yes the having tea after school is a great idea, and something I should of thought about!!. But with they way my brain works I always steer to word the negative!!

...lots of schools have breakfast clubs...if they have tea with you then it still might be possible for them to stay over and you could drop them off earlier the following morning.

As Eric says the girls are old enough to understand, if possible, it might be a good idea to have a family meeting with your ex and the girls and work out some new arrangements together....if its a joint decision arrived at together its much more likely to work and be accepted.

You sound like a great dad to me, who puts his children first! Anything that benefits you will ultimately benefit your girls...so a new job with better prospects is a good thing for all concerned!

I agree, you sound like a great dad so don't worry about that part of things, you have to move forward, think about all the retail stores around you that are closing down, and if yours did you would have had no choice but to make the move.

The tea time and drop at school is a great idea and will hopefully work out for you, as your girls are older if time restraints make tea time rushed I'm sure they could help in the kitchen while you sort yourself out after work. I guess my only concern is it sounds like you will be travelling a lot and we all know what the UK's road networks are like and if there was an issue the girls could be left stranded at school, but having a plan in place of a relative that could come to the rescue would always help the acceptance of your ex to make this change.

I think everything else has been said with the exception of you telling us when your sale WILL actually end in store???? LOL

GTTS

If you know exactly when you can have your girls, it means that they can also make plans whereas before they couldn't make plans for the weeks you weren't seeing them - everyone wins this way.