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Hello everyone i kinda need some help i feel like im going out of my mind so me and my sons mum split up when he was 4 we both moved on she got in a relationship with a local girl who has a reputation for being an abusive and a impressive criminal record to go with it. so eventually things turn sour for them my sons mum gets attacked by her partner who is also mentally abusing her not letting her see people not letting her have money making her basically her slave the police took my son and his mum to his nans after a night of violence i know of 3 more times she was rescued and she still went back so after months of this and after a serious episode they finally split up then after 2 months she meets someone online after a month of talking she decides shes moving 70 miles away and taking my son who at the time i had him every 4 days as i worked 4 on 4 off and also i paid 100 per month to her for our son so after arguments and many of her family members she decides to let him stay with me as she was still leaving regardless of our son so from that point he now lives with me full time so now shes miles away from him it goes 2 months without my son seeing his mum then the relationship falls apart after 6 months then she goes back to her mums then meets someone else online and moves 40 miles away from our son again saying she cant live in our town as the first abusive ex is hassling her outside her house smashing her mums windows that kind of thing. so 3 years pass and she has had my son almost every weekend but not quite now that relationship has fallen apart and she is now back with the first ex the abuser the one she had to run away from who by the way is an alcoholic and drug abuser but apparantly she no longer drinks or takes drugs and is also the nicest person in the world "apparently" but its all ok she has a laminated certificate from the local drug and alcohol place to confirm this but here is the problem i told my sons mum that i dont want her partner near my son as i certainly dont trust her and dont trust his mum to make a reasonable decision she lied to me and let my son stay at her house without my consent i specifically said i dont want that happening but as usual i get the "im his mother too" her family hate the new partner and wont have her near any of there houses but heres the funny thing they ring me up asking to let me let my sons mum and her partner take him out on days out and such so they can play happy family's but they wont let her near there own house?? how can that be? her family all bow down to my sons mum and ive had enough of the lies the scheming behind my back and im always made out to be the bad guy in all this my sons mums house has cameras all over the house and has social services involved because of a previous situation this is giving me a whole load of stress and i need reassurance that im not loosing the plot abd i am doing the right thing by my son as last time it affected him greatly he changed would become withdrawn and his school even noticed but hes a changed boy now after the hard work from me and my partner i just dont want to see him affected in such a way again
thanks for reading all of this i need to get it off my chest before i burst!
Hi there
Well done for taking on your son and turning things around for him. Of course you want to protect him, that's your responsibility as his parent.
If you want to stop him having contact with her partner you can make an urgent application to the family court for a Prohibited Steps Order. It's likely that once the court sees the history and circumstances around the partner and the fact that Social Services are involved with his mum they should agree that action should be taken.
You can also apply for a Child Arrangements Order at the same time, to say that your son lives with you, to help protect your position as his primary carer.
You can make the application without a solicitor, if that's the case you would need form C100, which would cost £215 to submit. As there are risks to your child you would also complete form C1a to tell the court about the risks.
There lots of info about the process in the stickys at the top of the legal eagle section, but if you have any questions, please don't hesitate to ask.
All th best
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