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Title says it all really!
Other people in work are already placing requests for xmas leave so I have initiated discussing our arrangements for son with the ex, I proposed a schedule which took court orders and the ex's job into account and sent it to her..she didnt reply so after two days I forwarded it asking for a response, after weekend contact I wrote in our communication book asking her to please address the email and so she did last night.
She wanted to make change to what I proposed, I have agreed to one but compromised on another, and re-wrote the proposals for Xmas and sent it back asking for confirmation so I can book leave.
Not sure on the etiquette with emails and ex's, how long should I wait before following up asking for her to respond? I respond to work and personal emails fairly quickly, certainly answer them within 24 hours. Is most frustrating trying to arrange contact with her when she seems to think she can lay down what will happen and ignore any emails from me.
Hi There,
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If you are getting no reply I would leave it a few days and then send the schedule again, asking if she recieved the first one, and add on the end you would need confirmation in email within 48hrs so that you can book your christmas leave, and that if she hasn't replied within 48hrs you will assume that all is ok with schedule and book the leave. ensure that you send the email with recieve and read reciepts so you can tell it has been read.
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GTTS
I agree with gtts. Unfortunately, it's very common for there to be delays like this. You can bet if it was the other way round, you'd most likely be hounded for an answer! It might be worth, when you do next speak, that you try to agree a timeframe with the mother for responding to emails and by what date you will agree what holiday periods on the basis that delays may result in annual leave dates that don't suit either of you.
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