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Hi
My ex and I divorced a year ago and agreed a 50/50 for our children. It has worked pretty well so far, kids have adapted brilliantly to their new routine. Problems between myself and the ex arise when we have direct conversation but this is not too common as our agreement is rigid and only really happens when we discuss birthdays and Christmas... To avoid this, I have asked for all communication to be via text or e-mail from now on, which has generally worked in the past as we are more measured in how we talk. However, I have received a letter from mediators on behalf of the ex.
As our agreement is working and nobody is looking to change that, I am thinking I should ignore it. I cannot justify the time or the money .
Is this the right thing to do? I don't believe my ex will instigate court proceedings but even if she does, our agreement works. She does not want to change the 50/50 split. So is there any reason for that to concern me?
I think it would be worth sending a message asking what she wants to discuss at mediation - although you think it works, there must be a reason why she has taken this step, so either it's not working for her, or she wants to change the agreement somehow. In any event, if you don't find out why she has asked for this, I think it would be worth attending at least an initial mediation session - it might be worth giving them a call first to see if they know why your ex has asked for this.
Yes, that is a fair point. Thanks
I agree with actd. It's worth at least attempting one session, they might be minor issues that could escalate to larger ones and cause friction with your ex.
I too agree...there must be a reason why she has attended mediation, as mediation is the first step before a court application I do think it advisable to attend and find out what's behind it all.
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