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Hi there,
My ex dropped my youngest DD this morning and then said she would be collecting my eldest from school to give her teacher some flowers, as she won't be going back to that school in September as she now has a new school and they're moving 25 miles away too! I haven't even been told about this until today let alone consulted. I said to her she had to have consulted me about schooling before moving her. She was adamant that she didn't and I gave up that right when I moved out and became a part time dad (nice). However as I have parental responsibility I am sure I should have been consulted. I have no idea what the school is even called and have had no option to go and view it before this decision was made.
Hi there
You're right, on paper having PR does mean that important decisions about education, religion and health should be discussed. Translating that into action is another matter though.
You could ask her to attend mediation to discuss this and perhaps put a Parenting Plan in place for the future.
You do have the option of court if she won't attend mediation but realistically, as the move is just 25 miles away and the change off school is to do with this then it's probablyy not worth the disruption and strain it will put on your relationship with your ex....and you are not guaranteed a result.
Here's a link to a previous thread about parenting plans that you may find useful
http://www.dad.info/forum/legal-eagle/38959-cafcass-parenting-plan
...and a link to mediation services
www.nfm.org.uk
Thanks so much for your replies. I'm not going to stop them from moving. The decision has already been made and the school finalised.
So are we saying there is no repercussions from her doing this all without telling me. She seems to think she is the only one who can make any decisions regarding the girls.
...there are no repercussions unfortunately, without a court order setting out arrangements, she can more or less do as she pleases.
I do think that by addressing it at mediation level you might be able to get her to agree and sign a parenting plan...it might at least make her think more deeply about co parenting and what that means.
Good luck
You have PR and can stop it if you wish in court, not sure it is worth it though. Does she have sole custody? A letter reminding her of your PR.
...not quite halfoyster! Peeved could apply to try and stop it, but his chances of actually stopping it would be slim... in my opinion.
Maybe on paper but if contact will be damaged or it is done to restrict contact then I can see it going through. The situation is that she has already moved so yes you are right that no court order than undo that, not with common sense though (although common sense isn't common these days).
Sorry halfoyster but I have to agree with Mojo. A Prohibited steps application to prevent the mother moving 25 miles out of the area, would be thrown out unfortunately. If the mother was changing the child's school within the local area, you'd have a very good chance of obtaining a PSO in that respect.
As previously stated, mediation might be your best choice at this stage as in addition, the move might affect contact and also need to be negotiated.
You can register with the LEA as having PR - have a look on The Custody Minefield PR section for further help on that.
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