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i have a 6y boy and have been seeing him everyweekend since i split up with ex. mostly from fri to sun and mostly sun nights to. it has been like that from we split approx 4yrs.now i woke up this morn to a text saying shes moving to england with her boyfriend of a year and whom she has never lived with.thing is i live in northern ireland and will never afford the same contact as the option of flying every weekend is symply to expensive and i cant afford it. i do have pr as im named on the birth cert. hes got friends here and all his family are here including ex.s. hes by we baby even tho hes six. is there any hope of me fighting this in court,im really out of my depth and dont know were i stand. any advice is much appreciated
i found all this out by text 2 days ago and some of the texts say its because she can be happier and because of her new boyfriends work, she doesnt seem to be intererested in the childs welfare and just last night she got my 6yold to phone and say he was moving to england and he wants me to come to and started crying. so she has infact been grooming him for a while now as she stated in the text that he knew about it long before i did and doesnt fully understand what it means for his relationship with me. how can this be for the good of my son.
do i have a chance with this has can anyone share any past experiences, iv had my boy everyweekend for years i cant believe this is happening.im seeking legal advice but i dont know if i have much faith in it
Hi and welcome.
This is a horrible place go be in. I don't have any experience of it im afraid, but sure there is some advice on the way soon when others log on.
Can you let us know what advice you have been given so far?
Hi there
Sounds like really bad news - not sure if there is anything you can do to stop them as they are moving within the UK, however can you apply for full time residency?
I would speak to an expert such as the Childrens legal centre who may be able to help you
Good luck and stay in touch
iv been advised to get a prohibited steps order. along with a contact order since we never needed it as i took him every weekend also a residential order i think its called . more to prove i dont care were she goes just not my we guy
Hi there
Sounds like really bad news - not sure if there is anything you can do to stop them as they are moving within the UK, however can you apply for full time residency?
I would speak to an expert such as the Childrens legal centre who may be able to help you
Good luck and stay in touch
think its still out of the juristriction tho as contact cant be maintained easily
I'd certainly look at a residential order in the first instance, and if not, a contact order for longer periods but less frequently, with you ex contributing towards the cost, plus trips to northern Ireland.
I'm not sure if the CCLC can offer advice or not, but its worth having a word with them if you don't yet have a solicitor.
Hi Boyd,
Sounds so very tough for you right now. Can't imagine how hard it must be to be faced with your son moving away from you in Ireland.
Who gave you the advice to look into getting the prohibited steps order and contact order. Do you have a solicitor you're speaking to about this?
Really hope you're able to get the advice you need, find out exactly where you stand legally & help you get lots of contact with your son if the move goes ahead.
thanks for the replies guys. iv taken some legal advice and have started the ball rolling. im also unemployed. cant give up on my boy its so hard i cant stop thinking what its going to be like if he goes. iv built a we home here for him so you can imagine everything reminds me of him. hes my life i allways put him first and it never worried me id have no social life at weekends. now to be told iv no say in the matter because she is the primary parent and hes going.she actually said by text that i am being selfish for not letting my son move out of a country with nothing in it. there is loads in it she just never wanted him long enough to do anything. i really do believe if it goes to court i have good chance as i have had regular contact and a home for him add to that his support network ie both sides of family and friends all this along with him being behind in school and the fact he has nothing over in england.then there is her reasons which have nothing to do with my son . im in a battle and im going to treat it ike one. everything is being documented and recorded from texts to emails.im even jotting down texts for chat time with my son that have went unanswered. which never happens. i highly recommend to anyone to do this. not that it helps the pain .if this goes ahead it will surely be a bad day for fathers
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