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Hi,
I currently have shared parental responsibility with my twins' mother and have an agreed contact order in place.
I am concerned that if something happens to me, the twins' step brother and sister and my partner would not have access to the twins. I would appreciate some advice on how I can ensure that if the worst happens, contact would be maintained.
Many thanks
Would your ex be likely to agree to give your partner PR over your twins? It might be something you can work out through mediation, but otherwise I think it would be likely that your partner might have to go for contact if anything were to happen to you. Depending on your answer, we can ask the CCLC to pop by and give an opinion.
Hi
Thanks for the response. I very much doubt that she would as the divorce was incredibly acrimonious and she does not like my older 2 children.
It was mentioned to me a few weeks ago that there may be an option where my partner or my older children take me to court and I provide her/them with Guardian status or something similar to that for the twins on my behalf. Apparently this can be done and then my ex informed?
I'm really just trying to minimise the likelihood of another battle as it has taken me over 18 months to get the level of contact I wanted as all my ex is interested in is how much she can get via the CMA and fought all that time to get the contact under the 2 days per week threshold.
Any advice is most welcome. Thanks in advance.
Shaun
I'll ask the CCLC to pop on a give some legal advice.
It might be advisable that you simply gain the knowledge now ready just in case it's ever needed rather than necessarily taking any action - the reason being that if you go to court, it is going to get acrimonious over something that hopefully will never happen, whereas laying the groundwork so that your partner and step children are prepared and can act quickly if necessary.
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