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Hi
I've been with my partner for 11 years and we have a 9 year old girl and a 2 week old baby girl. The 9 year old is going through a lot at the minute with school and has been diagnosed with anxiety which she is being forwarded for counciling. Ever since the baby was born though mum had been very snappy with her and is not giving her the attention she needs. I understand the baby needs us as she's totally dependant but I also understand our eldest daughter needs. I involve her in as much as possible in regards to the baby and it's clear she loves her little sister very much. The problem is the neglect from mum. I've spoken to mum about it but it just causes arguments and she's in denial about not spending time or giving the eldest love.
Has anyone else had similar experiences, and any advice for me?
Thanks
Hi There,
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I don't have any experience of this but understand it's quite normal for an older child to feel neglected when a baby arrives in the house.
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Would your partner be willing to spend some one on one time with your daughter maybe go shopping or for lunch while you look after the baby, I know the baby is still very young and mum probably won't want to be away for too long but this would probably help your older daughter to feel less pushed out.
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You could even look into a pamper session for mum and your daughter something that would only be an hour or so where they get thier hair or nails done.
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GTTS
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