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Hi
I'm posting on behalf of my son, split from partner in August last year, they have one son, Jack.. From the start, ex was difficult about contact and controlled where/when ex took his son during contact and she completely refused son having overnight contact, said Jack was too young (3).
Despite overnight contact not happening in the intervening period, things had improved slight and she had become less controlling, but again ex has become controlling again, trying to lay down conditions for when he has contact, for example not taking Jack to X, that Jack has no contact with X during the times they are together. I must point out at this stage that all the activities they engage in during contact are appropriate and all the people that Jack comes into contact with during contact are okay.
Son really wants overnight contact with Jack but ex is refusing to enter into any meaningful discussions re this.
Any advice would be welcomed re what he should do, it would also be helpful if others who might have been in a similar situation could let us know what happened in their particular cases.
Thanks
Proud Grandma
Hi There,
Welcome to the site, your son isn't alone in what he's going through, (click on my user name and search my post and you will see I have been and am still there)
The first thing to do is to establish reasons for thee not allowing the freedom during contact, is it she has an issue with x or doesn't like child going to come and is so what's the reason behind it. If there is no valid reason ( and I'm suspecting from what you have said this is the case) then I would suggest they try mediation to try to resolve the issue, the ex doesn't have the right to stipulate who they see and where they go without good reason.
Try and keep things out of court if you can,as due to the fact that there is currently contact the judge would look for them to attend mediation try to resolve their differences.
Hope this helps.
See if your son would like to join the forum he could probably gain a lot of good advice and it would give him somewhere to let off steam when things aren't so good
Darren
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