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Please can someone help me I am rock bottom, I am trying to apply to the court for access to the children. At the moment they are supposedly telling their mother they don't want to see me, which hurts so much.
I have a date for the court in May, but my children's mother has now submitted a form accusing of domestic violence and harm. These events have been made out of minor events, and over dramatised into major events.
I would never harm my children, and worried that this will affect my chances of ever seeing my children again.
Hey and welcome to the forum 🙂
Really sorry to hear about your situation you have defo come to the right place for support and advice unfortunately it is all too common for former partners to restrict or stop contact with children siting DV and abuse myself and many dads on here have been through the same sort of thing.
As long as there is no concrete proof of DV and the courts are satisfied there is no risk to the children you will defo get to be part of your childs life whether your ex likes it or not.
You're doing all you can it's not long until the first hearing the courts have seen it a million times over ex's alleging this that and the other and it wont be long until they twig it is all lies so try not to worry keep calm and try not to make the situation worse in the meantime.
Try and keep yourself in ship shape in mind and body as you need to be on it to fight through the courts, take each step as it comes and carry on seeking advice from sites like this 🙂
Take care
Slim 😉
Thank you so much for your words if support it makes me feel better.
The harm she is accusing me of is that I have always got involved with play with my children, and sometimes I go a bit rough , but never have meant any harm . It seems that it is being made a mountain out of a mole hill.
Also, I have at times shouted at my children when they have misbehaved sometimes close holding them so they couldn't run away while I dealt with the situation. Is this emotional harm?
One serious event though which I am concerned over though, my son once was misbehaving and shouting. At the time I was preparing food in the kitchen, and i stupidly said if you don't stop I am going to stab you. Now I know I would never do anything so stupid, but it slipped out in the heat of the moment.
Am I really a bad dangerous father?
As long as the police were not involved or social services then you should be fine but a threat of stabbing the children will defo be brought up and the ex will play on absolutely everything so be prepared to defend yourself over that in court.
I was accused of DV by my ex and "pinching" my step daughter obviously it was complete rubbish and nothing had been reported to the police but it just mean't things were slowed down whilst cafcass investigated everything my ex brought up all sorts of times when I told my step daughter off and her cousins too at the time I never questioned my actions in how I told them off but after completing a parenting course ordered by the court I now know I could of handle things better.
No police were involved but we did have a family support worker whom the mother tried to milk it as much possible too.
This is only thing I am concerned would cause me trouble, and I feel so stupid for saying it and it was totally wrong, but I wouldn't of actioned it just like many parents have I am sure threatened their children in the heat of the moment.
What is the court hearing like, what happens I am really getting quite nervous as I am representing myself?
If you take a look at the top of the legal eagle section there's plenty of posts about self repping I and many others have done it with great results it's a lot easier than you think and once you've got the first hearing out the way things get easier 🙂
Thank you so much for your support I will read the other forum.
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