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I'm new on dad info
I am 30 years old. My daughter is 8 soon to be 9 and my son has recently turned 6. I missed last Christmas and my son's birthday. It's been 8 months since I've seen them. Contact broke down as I had to involve social services due to my son making accusations of my ex's partner. He said he'd been smacked. 6 months later social services have said everything's fine.
My reason for joining is to get advice how to write a statement for a final hearing as me and my ex could not agree what days I'm to see them. I work on a 7 week roster, In the 7weeks, it is only possible for me to see my children Monday night 3x and Monday - Tuesday 2x.
I use my other days off doing other things. O only have 2 weekends out of 7 off.
1 of the main reasons I want to keep my time moderate is I feel things will be safer as my ex's partner is very violent. He's attacked me a few times. I've reported this to the police but can the court help me to see my children without him attacking me and will they be satisfied with my moderate approach?
We need more info, but what visitation do you have and how many court appearances have you had. Any social workers report?
Please refer to the edited post above.
Thanks for your help I will message you.
I've edited your post further, but I still think you could be identified from the facts that you have given and I would advise that you edit out the whole of the statement part of your first post.
You can ask for a schedule of contact that aligns with your work roster and usually courts are happy to make a final order that reflects work commitments.
To be honest, your statement needs a great deal of adjustment and whilst you have said you understand that your feelings need to be kept out of your statement, it must also be completely child focussed.
If you would like some help and further advice, it would be better if this was done privately, as the statement is a confidential document and shouldn't be put on an open forum for anyone to see. If you send me private message I will do what I can to help.
I am writing the statementproperly today. The deadline is Wednesday as I didn't want to give my ex time to respond so I will be glad to send you a copy and I will add finishing touches with your help over weekend. Thanks again.
I've sent you a PM
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