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Hi all
My eldest son will be 13 next month - and he wants to hold a birthday party with a disco. We think this would be great for him but this presents us with the obvious challenges:
Other kids gatecrashing the party - I am going to be on the door with a friend to ensure that everyone who comes in is welcome!
Alcohol - I have threatened him that if I see or smell alcohol I will call the police in a bid to frighten him!
Damage - he has been told that any damage will be paid for by him!!
Facebook - we have told him not to give details of the party out on facebook as it will attracted unwanted visitors
Girls - [censored] - I remember being 13 and thats what worries me!!
Is there anything I need to be aware of - come on DadTalkers I need your help
Or am I just being old???
Mario
Hi Mario
Other kids gatecrashing the party - Hold it in a village hall or similar - it discourages gate crashing
Alcohol - tell him anyone drinking will publicly leave, he won't risk his street credit
Damage - teenagers are far less likely to damage property that does not belong to their parents ( go figure)
Facebook - Insist you are a friend on facebook, you cannot monitor (but don't post on his wall!!)
Girls - you can't stop nature - just make sure have the "chat" with him
I hope this helps
Apparently I am NOT allowed to choose any of the music!!!
I was looking forward to two little boys by Rolf Harris
You could tell him that if you see anything you don't approve of, then you will get up and dance - that should keep him in his place 😆
Hi
I would definitely not hold a party at your home, unless you have cleared a room completely - but you would still need to provide access to a loo!
Village halls, in my experience, seem to work well. My kids have been to parties where they have parents on the door, with a guest list, drawn up by the party giver, to check who is meant to be there. Some have even gone to the lengths of giving out wrist bands as an entry 'ticket' and those not wearing one are turned away! This is in rural Cambridgeshire too!!
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