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I'm not on the birth certificate for my daughter however I obtained a PR agreement from the court a few years back.
I rarely get school updates from her mother, not for any malicious reason but generally because, well, she's not the sharpest tool in the box. Anyway due to that and other reasons I don't really feel comfortable asking her about our daughter's progress so can I approach the school directly? I don't really want to go down the route of threatening to 'enforce' the terms of the PR.
Her mother hasn't (and very likely will not - that's a different and unconnected story) put me down as an emergency contact, or an adult who can collect her etc. So if I attended with the PR document etc would they have to give me the info? Or with schools is it only discretionary?
Hi there
No, it's not at the discretion of the school, as you have PR you are entitled to contact the school and expect them to liaise with you and keep you informed. You can also ask to have your contact details added to their records and request that you are informed of any important dates in the school calendar, such as parent evenings, sports days etc and also to receive any progress reports.
As they don't know about you you will have to provide proof that you have PR. There are some template letters for contacting the school, I'll have a look and post a link.
Here's the link to the template letters. I would include an extra paragraph to the letter stating that you have a Parental Responsibility Order from the court and have attached a copy, otherwise they may delay things by asking you to provide proof.
http://www.separateddads.co.uk/letter-templates-for-school-health-club-activities.html
Many thanks, very much appreciated.
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