[Solved] Hi I'm new any new dads on here

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GTTS

Hi GTTT

I'm 30 something 5' living with my partner
My children are both boys but she's pregnant and I'm expecting a girl I'm terrified and paranoid ever since I watched the movie 13.

Hi,

Am I missing something, why do you feel that way after watching the film, I haven't seen it but just googled it and read about what happens.

GTTS

Welcome Painr5,

Congratulations. Very welcome to the forum, there is lots on here. We've also got a great tool to help you and your partner through the transition of a new baby again. Please go here to view it - relationships.dad.info/menu

I have a 2 year old boy and 2 teenage girls.

Please tell us more about what you are terrified and paranoid about. Going to look for the movie 13, to see what could have caused this..

Hope all is well with you, look forward to hearing from you.

C.

Hi GTTS

I strongly recommend you don't watch the movie 13 as it contains difficult issues about how to look after teenage girls it scared and scarred me for life I could never have a girl I couldn't cope I'd commit suicide

Hi there and welcome to the Forum

Please don't confuse movies with real life, I find it very worrying that you are expecting a girl and yet you say you could never have a girl... I can't work out whether you are being completely serious or not! I really hope you're joking to be honest.

All teenagers, regardless of gender, present us with difficult issues. I have a boy and a girl, all grown now and I'm trying to compare the two as they were growing up....I can honestly say there was little difference between them...a mix of worry and anger but lots of joy and laughs along the way.....parenting is very fulfilling whatever the gender and to watch them grow into kind and loving adults makes me both proud and content in equal measure!

Hi there

How are things? I noticed you had been on the forum last night and haven't replied, I hope everything is ok with you. Talking helps and there's always someone around to offer support.

Perhaps you could just say hi to let us know you are ok. 🙂

That's reassuring NannyJane I have always believed that girls are more difficult please tell me specifically what to expect in the early stages. I have an undiagnosed Mental Health problem so suicidal thoughts are the norm I'm afraid

Painr5

... I've been told that when a father holds his daughter in his arms for the first time something magical happens and the bond that is forged at that moment is very special indeed. I hope that other fathers will share their experiences with you. What I can tell you is how special my relationship was with my own father...he was a beautiful, kind and loving man, he loved all of us equally but the bond between us was unique. The bond between a father and daughter goes beyond words.

As I said, I don't think bringing up girls is harder, just different. It's generally thought that girls mature a little more quickly than boys in the early years and do slightly better at school to start with, but by the time they reach teenage years this usually levels out.

All children are different and we have different concerns at different stages of their development. As babies we worry that they are eating well, that they are reaching each milestone and are developing normally. We worry that they will do well at school, we worry when they start becoming independent and want to play out and start exploring the world around them... we recognise that we must let them go and we try and teach them about the dangers away from home, of crossing the road, of talking to strangers. We also teach them about the value of things, of being kind and caring for others. It is the grounding that will help to shape them as they grow.

By the time they have reached their teenage years, we hope that we have given them all of the tools that they need to move out into the world as well rounded young people....it has very little to do with gender, even less so in today's society. All children require, love, routine and boundaries and when a child feels safe and secure and is given plenty of encouragement they will flourish and we as parents will grow with them.

I agree - I have a son and two daughters, and there's definitely a different bond with my daughters. Not better, just dfferent, and it makes me glad that I had children of both genders, so I could experience the difference.