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Hi, I'm Euan. I've got three kids, 5,2 and 1 (boy, girl, boy) and we are expecting our fourth on the 1st January. My wife has been researching the possibility of hiring a doulah and we are currently looking into getting a nanny for some extra help.
My wife, Emma, experienced pretty bad PND with our daughter and I had the same with the birth of our second son. We are desperate for this time around to be different so are looking for ways to alleviate any problems before they arrise.
If anyone has any hints or tips they could share in relation to nannies, doulas or just general hints or tips for running a larger family please drop a line on this thread.
(Phew, what an introduction!)
Cheers in advance
Dukes
Hi there and welcome
Goodness you have got your hands full!
I think it's important for yours and your wife's confidence to have something in place to help you both once baby has arrived. I have no direct experience of doulas but I have read about the service they provide and if you get a good one they can be invaluable in the first few weeks. Of course if you can ask for extra support from your immediate families that would also help to take the pressure off.
I think the key to a big families success is organisation and routine. It's also important to make sure you both have a little couples time and keep talking about how each of you is feeling. Be kind to yourselves and considerate to one another and try and make time for each child individually.
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