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Good Morning Folks
I hope you're all well. My teenage son who is in year 11 seems to be getting stubborn day by day regarding his studies. He is getting below average school grades and I have offered him assistance on countless occasions to try and help him grasp the subjects taught. For example, I suggested that he learn a topic and I can ask him questions related to the topic to make sure he understands it ok. He says he doesn't want that since it would be like being in school. He says he is doing ok at school but his grades obviously don't show that.
Could someone be kind enough to give me advice/tips on how I can help my son to grasp the subject topics taught in school in a better way, thus making sure he gets above average grades?
Thanks in advance for your responses.
It might be worth speaking to the school and coming up with a joint plan with them. Also some targets and rewards for your son if he reaches them.
Hi There,
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I think rewards are a good idea, or even incentives, I think games consols get in the way a lot too, so maybe something around that (if he has one) maybe something along the lines of if grades improve, he can have increased time on consol, if they drop he looses time. I know my stepson who is a bit younger is a pain with his consol, he askes if he can go on it, my wife tells him as long as he has no homework, he says he doesn't so is on there for a few hours, then I come home and check his homework online and he has lots to get done.
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It is tough as it isn't fun learning at home as well as at school, I try and explain to my stepson that you don't get anywhere in life if you don't put in the effort, and that if he just breezes through school his life when he leaves will be much harder.
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Though thats easy to say, I was exactly like him, I hated school and couldn't be bothered Lol
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GTTS
I also have a son in the same age as yours and the same problem. I realized that the help was needed much more earlier from the first year at school. It seems to me that he is used to being independent and therefore rejects assistance now. Or maybe you don’t have trusting relationship. I think you could be helped by communication with a psychologist who will propose an action plan
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