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Hi,
I already give my child's mother money each month. Do I need to give anything in addition towards a child minder or nursery fees. How much are they normally?
Also do I have any say in if my child goes to nursery or child minders or which one they go to.
Thanks for all your help
Hi There,
When you pay maintenance, you have options, you can agree privetly as to what you pay or you can go through CMS/CSA either way the amount you pay is to cover your childs/childrens needs, so that would include childcare or nursary.
You should have a say in where your child goes.
GTTS
Hi so if I gave £300 a month would this be for everything? Rent, bills, food, clothes, childcare. What about if childcare alone is £1000?
Hi,
If you were to go through CSA/CMS they would award an amount based on your income, legally that is all you have to pay, that is unless you are named on the mortgage/lease agreement of the house your ex is living in, then you would either have to pay half the rent/mortgage or be removed from either.
Child maintenance is to cover your share of the living costs of your child so that would be for everything, there is nothing stopping you from paying more towards extras such as child care but legally you don't have too.
GTTS
Bit of a minefield down here - but I guess it depends what you're looking for. One of our challenges was finding someone we'd trust, and for whatever reason that meant discounting the 'babysitter-type minders' and nurseries with particularly young staff. Just didn't feel right. Having said that, I spoke to a woman last week who said the nursery near her comprises staff who are mainly mums in their 40's - and the vibe is really good.
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