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Hi Everyone,
Most people will know my story so far but I have a question.
My son is in nursery by me half a week and 15 hrs a week. I want to increase his hours at nursery but his mom, i think, is planning to put him in a nursery by her (in a different council) in sept. My understanding is that the nurseries apply for funding for Charlie but I dont think two nurseries can apply. Charlie has a delay in his learning so moving him to another council would be foolish right now and I have an opportunity to put him in a schools nursery in sept which will be a better education base for him and the transition will be set up to make it easier for him to move to the new nursery.
Is it a good idea for me to speak to the nursery she is trying to get him into in order to explain that he is already in a nursery and has funding and is being looked after by a different council?
I know this will kick off a stink and we are about to see a solicitor to talk about it but she is intent on changing his nursery to one 30 mins away.
Whats the proceedures for nurseries in accepting children? and what conditions do they have?
My personal opinion is that speaking to the nursery won't help - I wouldn't expect them to refuse to accept him on that basis, and even if they did, your ex would just find another one. This really needs to be sorted out between you if possible, and speaking to you ex rather than going direct to the nursery is more likely to get a resolution, if one is possible.
If it's not too late, try mediation rather than solicitors.
I went for mediation and she rejected. She has no involvement with him at the moment with nursery bar the odd phone call when hes in there. Its me who has been to all the appointments and meetings regarding his future.
She is just focusing on taking him away from his nursery and the people who he is working and developing well with and putting him in a different area for school with people who dont know his history.
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