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I'm hoping someone can educate me here cause I feel a bit out of my depth but I need to do something.
Here goes:
EHC PLAN in place, no special needs or anything like that, very bright child achieving above his age.
Was excluded in early 2015 and attended a pupil learning centre, hated it, never went, did one to one with a tutor for a while, seemed to work but it was never to be permanent, back to pupil learning centre, hated it, never went. For 10 months we are saying he didn't go to school. End of 2015 started and special school (LA funded) went ok but then hated it, hated being around naughty kids, hated the drama, hated the entire place. Getting him there resulted in full scale brawls, ripped clothes, bust lips (mine!) you name it, we tried it. So this is still ongoing, he runs from school when we finally do manage to get him there.
Now the LA are looking to place him at another special school some 20 odd miles away to stop him running, this won't work, I know this because already he's jumped out of the taxi at traffic lights local. Waste of time if you ask me.
We've spoken and all he wants is to be in mainstream. He has just two years left. The LA have said they have now ruled out mainstream but I'm questioning why? He doesn't have any special needs, he has said he's learnt his lesson, he's doesn't want to be in trouble, thing is, can I trust what he says? I just want him happy and to get a good education
. Is it worth appealing the mainstream decision?
I'm sorry to hear your still struggling...I don't know much about this but speaking as a parent, if my child was so unhappy I would do whatever it took to try and make it better. If there's an appeals process I think I would probably go for it....even if you are unsuccessful your son will know that you tried everything.
Could they not facilitate home tutoring perhaps?
don't the mainstream schools have facilities for special needs - I know he's not special needs, but it might be a way of integrating slowly back into mainstream so the LA can see it's working.
You'd have thought so wouldn't you.
Spoke to someone yesterday and all I got was "we'll see, I'm not sure, I'll see what I can do!"
Mean while they are now finding him ANOTHER special school to go to some distance away because he won't go to the one he's at! What's the point? The problem isn't the school, the problem is getting him to the school, he'd jump out of a moving car given the chance. He just wants mainstream.
I'm gonna fight this. He's a bright kid, this is probably the problem, too much wit about him and playing us like a fiddle! I just hope he isn't pulling my leg and if I fight this he settles.
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