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Me and my wife recently had verbal arguements. She called the police and we called our families to help us resolve the issues.
The police adviced us both to go to our parents house for 2-3 days and let the situation calm down.
We have a 3 yr old son and my wife is 8 months pregnant. Its been now 46 days she is at her parents house . Yesterday there was my family function. I have sent a message to her via her brother in order to take my son with me to the function.
But she said she will not allow my to take my son anywhere but agreed to meet my som at her parents house.
I went to see him and asked if I can take him to the function for few hours but she refused to allow me.
I am considering to file a divorce application because the reason for divorce is big a enough for me. But since she is pregnant I want to know what are my rights.i dont want her to make any false allegations about being incompetent parent and not attempting to contact my son. She has blocked me to contact her directly.
Please advice what should I be doing at this stage?
Whats my right over my son.
I am not able to contact her directly but my message is passed over to her via her brother.
I would say that the first step would be to try counselling, such as Relate, before doing anything else. She is 88 months pregnant, so her hormones could be all over the place at the moment.
Thank you
Hi there
Even if you feel that your marriage is over, it would be worth trying some marriage counselling, just to be sure that you’ve done everything you can, especially as you have a child, with one on the way... as actd says, her hormones will be all over the place.
The other option would be to try mediation, to get some arrangements in place for contact with your child. You could contact a mediator near to where she lives and have a chat, but leave it up to them to write to her and ask her to attend...hopefully you can reach agreement and maybe even talk about what she wants and when she might come home?
Best of luck
I would say that the first step would be to try counselling, such as Relate, before doing anything else. She is 88 months pregnant, so her hormones could be all over the place at the moment.
oops 8 months pregnant, not 88 months - that would be perfectly understandable.
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