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I have 1child called Katie aged 2 my ex partner ,we separated before the birth but I made sure I was there and never left her side, were never married. I was left because she says she did not love me no more and seems like she had postnatal depression as quite a few months later she wanted me back by this time I started seeing another girl. All through our relationship I feel her family made it difficult. Then she stopped me from seeing my girl , so I asked her can we go to family mediation she never did before long I need a solicitor after lots of letter going back and forwards we sorted set days. The other day she called me and said we need to talk, then she told me that she had been to a solicitor to cut my hours and not sure why now I have to wait for the new letter that is coming in two weeks. I used to have my girl every other weekend as I work full time so I used to pick her up on the Friday night and take home on Sunday night, the weekend I don’t have her I have her for 3 hours on a Wednesday
I have always paid maintenance through the CSA,initially started be myself & not my ex so I could at least try to have some control over it (as ex is on the benifit cash-go-round & is far better off than me.
I am in a constant "fight" with my ex over time I spend with my child
I have never seen my child on christmas day for no more then about 2 hours with her mum being there (my time always has to be day after boxing day),my time at birthdays in the morning or the next day the list is exhausting.
I have tried to stay away from the court arena as ex would get legal aid & would knowingly drag things out if she thought it would cost me money,but any attempts to talk rationally result i her going off on one as she really believes that she is doing nothing wrong.
All I want is to spend good quality time & have good,fun times with my children however my ex constantly picks & drops any arrangements that have been made.
What do I do?
Thanks
Hi Mate
Sounds like a tough place to be. I would have said that we would get our legal experts to give you some advice but am I right in saying that you already have a solicitor. New legal rules mean our experts can't comment on a case if you already have a solicitor. You could always call their free phone number however (Google Children’s Legal Centre) and miss that bit of info out!! 😉
....(Google Children’s Legal Centre) ...
Or you could always follow the link at the top of this site 😉
Hi, as a father that been fighting for 6yrs in and out of court. If your ex had given you Friday to Sunday why now the change of mind? Its seems to me she does not want nothing more to do with the father as she wishes to continue her life without you. Trust me most woman do this just to cause heartache thinking they can do better without male figures in their life. My advice is go for full resident's or apply to the courts for more time to bond with your child. I had same situation but now have full custody of my son. Because women think they are victims but its males and the children who gets hurt. Your child will understand this when he/she are older.
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