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Hi , I have recently separated and now looking after 4 boys (. 16,14,13,11) my x is applying for child arrangement (C100) and a occupation order . Can someone please help.
hi,
ok so the 4 boys are living with you right? has your ex left the house or both of you are still there?
you should contact a solicitor and get legal advice. many offer 30 mins-1 hour free consultation.
i don't know much about occupation orders, but due to your kids ages, their views will be taken into account by the family court. if your kids say they want to live with dad, then courts will likely go with that, do not be tempted to put any thoughts or words in your kids mouth. there are few options, you can fight for kids to live with your full-time and your ex opposes that and vice versa. or you can do a 50/50 shared care arrangement.
She has left the house and now wanting to move back in . The kids wish to stay with me . They have mentioned that to social services.
Many thanks for your advice much appreciate it .
Your ex may have already obtained legal advice. Under no circumstances let your ex move back in. you will find within days/weeks she will have house and you will be on the street. where your children are more than old enough... if the older two alone want to live with you and not mum its more likely you will end up with all 4 children as they will want to stay together.
Also if your ex gets back in the house she knows she will be able to get all the benefits possible available which she wont at moment.
Your ex wont get an occupation order unless all 4 children wish to reside with herself. also she has now chose to leave the house
Many thanks for your advice .
She left in August 2019 , saw the children after 6 weeks . I tried for the sake of the children for 3 months and then gave up , she last saw the children in October 2019 and to date hasn’t seen them . She has not made any attempt to work with social services and they have now after 5months completed there report excluding her say . She has now realised that without the children she has nothing as where she is staying ends in February. She now wants to attend all meetings concerning schools and I have my doubts about her . Whilst she was with us she said she wanted to be single and went to a refuge. She didn’t want these boys as they were a burden and now she wants to come back in there lives ,,, I do not trust her .
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