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Hi. I desperately need some advice.
I heard from a mutual family acquaintance of me and my ex that she remarried this last weekend whilst it was my shared care time of my 2 and half year old son. I had no knowledge of this. My concern is that she deliberately kept this information from me when there is this ’new man’ in my son’s life. She didn’t come to handover as she was ‘ill’ (her mum came instead) despite me having been shown photos of her on the same day taking wedding photos. Where do I stand?
I let social services know and also my son’s Nursery.
What more can I do as I’m really concerned, especially when my ex’s new husband is not even local. There is a danger she could take my son with her.
I shouldn’t need to be told this through others. Do I need to get legal advice?
Any advice shall be appreciated.
hi,
sounds like this is natural jealousy and paranoia. your still getting to see your child. your ex would probably behave the same way or worse if she heard that you re-married. yes there is a chance because her new man is a stranger, you dont know him, perhaps he could be a risk to your child somehow. you could apply to court for a prohibited steps order, to ask court to prevent your ex from relocating with your child far away. not sure if courts can do much about that.
Thanks. Maybe it is. But why the secrecy? I know I would tell her if I were to have a new partner. I suppose I just don’t trust her after her false allegations against me which she tried to use to keep my son away from me.
hmm its tricky. i have ready so many posts on here, where dads said they have to go back to court, because as soon as the ex found out they re-married or expecting a baby, ex started acting up and stopped them from seeing their kids.i am trying to re-marry, and i prefer to keep things as quiet as possible.
It’s really unfair on the child. I’m veering more towards keeping the fact that I know she remarried quiet until she has the decency to tell me herself (unlikely). As long as it doesn’t affect the relationship with my son.
It does seem like a ploy by her.
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