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I have attended mediation but my ex wouldn't attend.letters were issued and she relented and allowed me access to my little boy. This was fine for a few weeks then it reverted back to her allowing me to see him when it suited her or if she couldn't get someone to pick him up from the childminder. I could have him some weekends to stay over but only when she wanted to go out on the town. I am now asking to have access to him on a Friday and keeping him until Sunday morning and then the following weekend having him on the Saturday and returning him on Monday but she will not agree to this.
I do not think I am being unreasonable and I have discussed this with a solicitor on a free consultation and he agreed.He then said he would take up the case but it would cost Β£300+VAT for a stage one. I am self employed and just about keeping my head above water and cannot afford these fees,can I represent myself at court?
Thank You
Brad
It's pretty straight forward applying to the courts yourself it will cost you Β£215 for the application and that's all you pay throughout the case, no need for a solicitor, I and many others have self represented and have gained good results π
You've already done the first stage which is mediation you will just need to fill out a c100 get it signed off from the mediator and hand that into your local family court.
You will get plenty of help and advice here every step of the way π
Slim
all so check out the posts at the top of the legal eagle section about self representing they are very useful π
Cheers Slim, much appreciate your informative response.
Thanks once again
Brad
Do your research tackle the courts step by step try not to look to far into the future and you'll be fine once it's done and dusted you won't have to live at the ex's beckon call just to see your child although the courts was stressful I'm so pleased I did it there's a great satisfaction knowing you have fought and won your case for the sake of your flesh and blood.
In the mean time try not to escalate things with the ex in any way like texting phoning ect you need to play the long game and you will get the outcome you want although I would say if theres any hint of working with the ex for the sake of little one then do it, in the long run you will have to both bring up the child wether the ex likes it or not and at some stage you're going to have to communicate and work together in a business like approach π
so first and foremost get that c100 filled out and signed off by the mediator to say mediation has failed quick sharp, the courts take forever at least you won't have a solicitor dragging their heels to make more money π
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