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Hi
I have Indian heritage and my ex-wife was Irish. We have 2 boys and to be balanced we named one boy with an Irish first name and Indian middle name, the second one the other way around. My ex-wife has gone ahead and put a nickname to my son who has an Indian name and explained to my other child that everyone should call him by his first name as he is Irish and his culture. My other boy is now called by his nickname, but can this be legal?
I wasn't asked nor told but all our correspondence now is with the nickname. I agree this is very petty but it is my child's identity
Its not unlawful if his name hasn't been changed and school have him registered by his birth name. It is possible to change a child's name by deed poll but this needs the consent of each person with parental responsibility. I have family members who are known by a nick name, not their registered name. Your son can choose to be known by his birth name when he is older if he wishes. You don't say how old your son is but is he old enough to have an opinion and does he mind?
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There was no agreement between us to tell school that's what he is called at home, isn't that a unilateral decision? He is 7 years old. He is too young to mind things, he is a beautiful considerate boy.
My other boy who is 8 and has an Irish name has been told he shouldn't have a nick name as he should be proud of his Irish name. It's just a sad manipulation that I will have to accept I guess.
Thanks you so much for your reply. I appreciate it
Hi,
I'm currently going through something similar. the mother on my son wants to change his surname to her surname to be in line with her and my step daughter as according to her this is his wish ( he is to young to understand name difference)
The school, Doctors and anything to legally do about his name won't make the change or the request without my consent also which I do not give.
without your permission the school can not call your son by his nickname only both of you have to authorise this the fact they are doing so is a legal matter that you can take up.
If you haven't done so already drop an email to your local MP explaining this as well. I'm currently in the middle of an investigation result with the HSPO with my local MP to have something put in place to stop her doing what she wishes with out duel consent
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