[Solved] Indirect contact

Thankyou
all the above has given me a lot to think about and get on with so i thankyou for that ill get on with the templates first i think ill start with the easier things and cross them off the list as i do them once again many thanks .also i did go to the c.a.b at the begining of the split about the house and mortgage they advised not to pay anymore as i wasnt liveing there so i ceased to pay.however on that note prior to the seperation beforehand when she left i had overpaid in the 18 months when she didnt live with me resulting in her not haveing to pay the mortgage at my stupid expense bank statements can back all this up as when i was told to leave the house another man moved in and neither of them paid any money towards the mortgage they just used the over payments id made resulting in over a year of them not paying anything!! that really does take the biscuit i will stop there as there is much to get through and i need to slow down thanks all.

Hello
ok i think i need to slow this down since i last came on ive had a very difficult time i should be in bed asleep but its immpossible
so since i last spoke lots of very good info thanks i havent started any of it except the 1st letters were all done checked by parents rceipt was given to us for proof every letter has been copied photoed and stored on pc. i dont allways have access to the internet which makes thinks more difficult so i have decided to try and use this site and begin with C.A.B i will phone today and try to get into see them suffering badly with anxiety and depression and trying to deal with this mostly on my own is soo hard.i have not long read that some c.a.b come out to visit so ill ask as getting into town is going to half kill me as i hate going out now.i will ask them to do form filling with me where ever i can as i think its safe to say im hopeless so i will begin with the variation of order i thought at the last hearing that was it game over till the time comes when the order finishes the court led me to believe if i wanted to fight on i would have to go to a high court im out of money and resources im no solicitor.then ill move to the next part which looks like family rights group again cant deal with it on my own so i will be guided now be the forum and citizens sorry for such a long post again its the only time when im calm enough and can type let alone try and talk about it all i hope to be checking into site more often but its like my mail or emails i hate getting them and cant open them for the fears of what they will be right ill leave this post here and go look on family rights group oh and also im on esa which is being lowered again for even more maintanence money hope you all have a good monday.

i have a couple of questions which are and in no way out of jealousey but i need to know my kids are safe which is while on subject of getting info about me and children how to get information on the men she has been with and also about her past as she told me she had lots of problems and counciling also the other question is as to the template of any schools or clubs that i find there in it says the emergency contact list I would be grateful if you could update your records so that I am included as an emergency contact in the event that something happens to [child name] in the future.what would happen if god forbid there was a very serious accident?where do i stand ? also what rights do i have to know of the bio logical father of my daughter.

Hi

As far as I know, you have no rights to know the father of your non-biological child, and although you have parental responsibility for that child because you are named on the birth certificate, I think there could be an issue in that I don't think you should be named on the birth certificate as you aren't the father - I would check that with the Citizens Advice Bureau.

You can certainly ask the schools to add you as an emergency contact, and also to send copies of school reports etc, but you don't have any rights to ask about any personal relationships you ex has had, or is currently having - if you have any concerns, then childrens services would need to be involved, but you've already explored that.

Hmm not sure why i shouldnt be on the birth certificate at the time we both agreed thats what would happen can i be taken off as for the parental rights then i wouldnt need to pay maintainence then for that child would i ?

what if my daughter has been told im not her bio logical father by social services is that correct and again i have no write and no say in the matter would that also be correct of them to do that and not involve me what so ever?

The reason I think you shouldn't be on there is that it's a false statement, ie you aren't the biological father. I would also say, that you are liable for maintenance for this child, and I would be very tempted to go back to children's services and tell them you now expect them to support your application with the CSA to stop paying maintenance, and to track down the biological father so that the mother can claim maintenance from him. I'm not sure about removing PR, but to be honest, you aren't getting any of the benefit of PR anyway. Of course, hopefully, the possibility of a reduction in maintenance from you might persuade your ex that she should be a little more cooperative and that you continue paying maintenance as now, and get more contact.