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Hi All,
Split up with my ex 6 months ago. I used to see my three children every week on my days of including overnight stays for over three months.
Then suddenly access has been denied (main resason, moved in to a house with my new partner).
Now, I have been to mediaiton and had my first appointment done on 14th of August. I have asked my mediator to act fast. They have sent a letter to my ex and she responded that she will attend mediaiton on last day possible. She got an appointment two weeks later which she attended. After that appointment I did receive an email from Mediation centre that my ex has asked for a polish english translator and also for me to pay for that translator.
I did asked them to get a quote and that we will try to sort out money. Now my ex claims that she wont pay a penny because it ME that needs mediation and that she is happy to take part but she will not spend a penny.
235 ponuds for translator first appointment. Closest appointment 3rd of Novemeber. Have I mentioned I asked them to for ASAP? I told the mediator at my first appointment that I do not want to go with mediation longer then 4 to 6 meetings.
I am sure that my ex would get legal aid. But 4 times 235 or 6 times 235 is a lot of money which neither I or my ex can not afford. It seems that it does not matter what you do but parent in main care is always the priviledged one and I just feel like a cow getting milked every day. People allover the world have right which We respect. Why is a separated parent either man or a women who is not the main carer being treated like this? We do not have any rights and are being put on a margain by Law. Forgotten and abandoned.
I dont want to put myself into position where I am taking a loan from bank and spend money on something that is not granted as it is with mediation taking into consideration that my ex is doing whatever possible to keep me away from kids and postpond every action in time as much as possible.
Mediatior is not concerned about who or how will pay for translator and leave it in our hands. I did try to speak to my ex (write texts as she does not answer my phone calls whatsoever) but she does not respond to them even do she read them.
I dont have any contact with my kids. No meetings, no phone calls. I do not go to school as I dont want to cause a stir in front of my own kids but I have been in touch with headteacher. When I seen my oldest son in city centre he didn,t even want to hold my hand. Like a stranger. 1. Parental ALienation Syndrome or am I going to far?
2. Should I try to get that money and get her into mediation or should I take a slip from mediator and head to Court straightaway?
I am not asking you to make a decision for me but to see what you think.
If you have any questions about my current situaiton which would put more light to your point of view then do not hesitate to ask.
I am happy to share my story.
Hi There,
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Who is the translator for,
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I wouldn't personally get a translator, you were together so my view is you must have been able to understand each other so why is there a need for a translator now?
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I think if she is refusing to attend mediation without translator then I would look to start the ball rolling for court.
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GTTS
Hello,
I live in UK since 2007 and my ex since 2009. Originally we are both from Poland. She will need a translator for sure as her english is rarther poor if it comes to speaking and writing but she understands everything, she just gets stressed. I had my first appointment with mediator and I am sure she would cope with this one easily.
Hope that puts more light into your view.
I agree with GTTS, unless you could find a Polish speaking third party, maybe a friend of family member? Would that work do you think?
Her refusal to apply for legal aid to cover the costs of her mediation when she is entitled to do so, is obstructive and I would speak to the mediator and ask them to sign the form to enable you to make a court application.
All the best
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