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I think your solicitor was being cautious to be honest, as it happened whilst the court case was ongoing, he probably felt it necessary to dot the i's and cross the t's.... not giving the other party any room to complain. If someone is hospitalised during proceedings, it's common practice to provide written proof.
It's a different matter once court is over and the order is in place, becoming too ill to meet any requirements of ordered contact, is seen as unavoidable, if alternative arrangements cant be made. Courts want to see parents being flexible, and changing plans in an emergency would fall under that heading.
As far as the OPs query, if you have concerns about the family member that is looking after your child, as they don't have PR and you do, you can remove your child from their care, but as you probably realise, it will sour relations with the mother in your future dealings with her.
I think it would be a good idea to try and reach a compromise, perhaps by having your daughter earlier than you would normally, and keeping her a little longer perhaps.
There are no hard and fast rules in this situation, ideally the mother would recognise that you have the right to step in and help out more, perhaps she worried you won't give her back, maybe some reassurance might help.
Perhaps you could liaise with the family members that are looking after your child, explaining that you just want to help and would like the opportunity to share the burden whilst the mother is ill.
The age of your daughter and whether she can express what she would like, might be important here.
All the best
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