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I am new to forum as need advice regarding my daughter.
I split from my un married partner of 23 years a year ago,We agreed amicably regarding access and maintenance of my daughter which includes every other weekend and she comes to see me every Weds and Thurs after school for around 4 hours before I go to work.I also have my daughter on many other days as my ex now has a taste of going out on a regular basis otherwise she is dumped with whoever will look after her.I never query her regarding our agreed maintenance over the extra days I have my daughter and always buying her clothes and other items but to late she seems to want to change our agreed terms.
My ex picks my daughter up on Wednesdays but always wanting to change collection times based around her job and on Thursdays I drop her off on the way to work even though it is out of my way but as she is a home carer she expects me to ring her to find out which client she is at and drop her there so can be a number of different addresses.
When I raise this point all I get is verbal abuse .
I also work nights so on school holidays I have my daughter during the day on Weds and Thursdays which can be tiring but happy to have her but yesterday I found out she is taking my daughter away on half term without informing me I would not be seeing her at all but if at any time I cannot have my daughter on the agreed days due to work commitments all I get is verbal abuse again.
The question I am asking is his how do I get around this as I feel I can't move on with my life as still getting abuse a years after we split as cannot afford to go legal on her as feel this would be the answer .
Thanks for taking time to read this.
Hi there
Have you thought about mediation? This will allow you to sit down with a neutral third party and discuss putting an agreement together and some acknowledgement that you are an important part of your daughters life. You can agree some guidelines and boundaries...that's the hope anyway.
Mediation is now compulsory before a court order can be sought, court can put an awful lot of strain on separated parents and this can often spill over on the child...if you can sort it out by other means, that would be best. Here's a link to the mediation service
www.nfm.org.uk
Good luck
Hi,Thanks for the advice,Will look into it straight away.
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