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Ok, quite a bit has happened lately.
Eldest has point blank refused school.
CAMHs is still ongoing and hopefully we'll have a statement in place soon for a special school.
FSW doesn't think dad is stable enough to care for him. Except now she's gone long term sick!
We attempted mediation again, not good. He spoke about emigrating and it sounded imminent. Turns out a visit is in place for 6 weeks ( only allowed 28 on te court order)
So, a social worker is now being allocated because of the eldests decline.
He's been like this since he was told about emigrating. He really doesn't want to go.
I have screen shots from fb where he talks about "sorting MY future" no regard for the kids, it talks about job and a new life. Problem is, eldest can see all what he posts so I can imagine his worry.
I feel like this is my final chance when this social worker is allocated to show he isn't capable of parenting, nor does he care. I think I have education welfare on board because he's just doing nothin to get him to school.
Any tips?
It sounds as though you have thought of pretty much everything - the only thing I wonder is a prohibited steps order to prevent the 6 week absence. I would have thought that with this covering term time and the Child Welfare Officer involved, that could be quite achievable.
Thought of that too, BUT, he's such a liar, he'll say it's for 4 weeks and stay for 6 and just not care, he's just getting away with everything.
At the min, he gets up for work, leaves child in bed, no attempt to get him to school at all, no fine because child isn't in mainstream school. Just untouchable, does as he pleases without any regard for child's welfare.
Wen on holiday, told school it was 4 days and stayed for 10! School had a teacher waiting at the local library on the days he was supposed to be back, no one knew when he was back!
No ones doin ANYTHING about it. I don't get it?
Sometimes I think maybe I'm overreacting but this is a child's future going down the drain.
...youre running out of options and it does seem like he can do whatever he likes!
Perhaps you could speak to your MP about the lack of support your son is receiving, I'm sure they should be doing more. Have you contacted the Family Rights Group crocs?
www.frg.org.uk
It's like the supports there but he isn't complying with it and no one is enforcing that.
Or am I just expecting too much?
Does anyone have any kind of power to enforce such?
I just know I need to do something but dot know what? Who to ask?
If your son doesn't want to emigrate then a PSO would be a good step crocs...at least the courts will look at your sons situation again in more depth. You could even think about a variation of the existing order and ask for him to be returned to you.
The MP would be a good step if you feel that the authorities are failing in their duty and the FRG can advise you further on this too, perhaps you could look into asking for a case review.
Well I don't think that could have gone any better!
I'm so happy with myself.
It's hard to get your point across with all your evidence and info without coming across to name call but I did it!!
Social worker seems really nice. She's concerned about his mental state, doesn't believe him to be stable enough. She's been told he is going for resident but they won't be supporting it given his state of mind and the fact he's never at home and unable to parent.
She was gobsmacked at all the screen shot I have and has said its emotional abuse (no ones ever really taken much notice of this). She's seeing about getting middle one on file for the interim since he's so young and just left to it there is massive concern and although eldest is older and on a CiN plan this could take it further.
She's emailing me this afternoon with an update after visiting them. Fingers crossed!
That sounds like a step in the right direction π That should hopefully give you good start to the weekend.
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