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My partner and I split up 4 years ago and social services intervened and I have my son and daughter( who is not my biological daughter) from monday to friday..
The little girl has behavioural issues, which are being dealt with by myself, school and behavioural support. I have been her daddy since she was 9 months old and she knows no different.
My question has any one dealt with having to explain the fact that the 'dad' is not the biological 'dad' and if so would it be better to tell her at an early age or later.....she is now 6. Bearing in mind that if she doesnt understand fully it could cause a divide between her and her brother and possibly me.
Hi there,
In my opinion, taking into account her behavioural problems and the fact that she is only 6, I would leave it alone until she is much more settled in herself. It would only confuse her and might make her feel "apart" from you and her brother. Have you taken advice from behavioural support?
I dont have any actual experience of this, but I do have experience of unsettled children.... they react quite adversely to changes, and this is quite a big one!
I presume that the biological dad is not on the scene, in which case I agree entirely with NJ - surely it would serve no purpose at all to tell her this, and she may not fully comprehend it anyway. I can certainly imagine it would not help with her behavioural issues.