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Hi again and thanks for the previous support and guidance,
I really need advice or direction.
i will very briefly go from start to date.
I separated from my wife 8 years ago and then was granted a divorce on the grounds of her adultery.
She had a son to an ex partner when we met (he was only 12 months old then) now 20
We had a son 16 years ago (he is in full time education)
We had a son 8 years ago (parentage in question)
6 years ago my ex wife threw the her son and our 1st son out. They live with me and I have residency of them.
The younger is still with her and I have a court order that states She should make him available to be with me on alternate weekends from Friday to Sunday. The order has a warning on it saying that if she does not she could go to prison, be fined or have unpaid hours.
I have not seen my youngest now for 8 months, she has stopped his brothers seeing him also.
I have the CSA arranging a DNA test and for proof of parentage or not.
My children are suffering greatly be the actions of their mother to stop them seeing their brother.
My 16 year old is retreating to his bedroom and isolating himself and has become preoccupied with this.
The eldest has began to self harm.
I work full time and just about survive on the income we have. I cannot afford to go back to court.
My ex will not work.
How can I get my children to see the youngest?
Where can I look to for help?
How can the contact order enforced?
I fear for my childrens mental health and the youngests development without a father and siblings.
I am a qualified Psychiatric nurse of 30+ years and know where these children may end up.
I am banging my head against brick walls.
My ex has given the kids cannabis when they were 14 years of age and strong alcohol.
How do I get Social Sevices to look into this.....she appears protected
I appologise for the slight ramble at the end but i am feeling desparate.
Regards,
Graham
Your sons might find this link useful, the website has a free phone helpline so it might be a good idea for your sons to give them a call and see if there are any services available to them.
www.nyas.net/
The only way to go forward with the contact issue is to return to court for enforcement of the contact order. It is possible to self represent and depending on your circumstances you may be entitled to an exemption from the court fees. You would need form EX160a to check about the exemption and form C79 to proceed with an application for enforcement.
The other option is mediation, although I get the feeling it would be long shot!
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