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Having worked in a service where a substantial amount of individuals and families has been significantly affected by drugs and alcohol it still seem to be an issue hardly discussed within family as a unit.....I note that this topic has not been discussed in this forum.
Hmm... we talk about these things in our family but I'm pleased to say we haven't been seriously affected by them, so I've not much to contribute really. Be good to learn from others' experiences though. It's definitely a real issue - my 15 year old says he knows several drug dealers at school (but is adamant he wouldn't go near the stuff himself).
Man this is an interesting one - my kids asked the my wife the other day
"have you even been drunk? I mean really really drunk?"
What do you say???
One of those weird things isn't it..........
We've had the same question, and I think you've got to be open and honest and use it as a value-sharing opportunity. So, "Yes I got really drunk once and regretted it pretty soon afterwards so I wouldn't recommend it..."
Let's not demonise these things by keeping them quiet or else I think the demon might jump out and get you one day.
Probably - lets face it everyone is less inhibited after a pint or two....
I also wonder if alcohol doesn't also have a part to play in the increasing number of teenage pregnancies.... Afterall after with two teenager tanked up no amount of [censored] education at school or elsewhere is likely to have an impact...
Question is what can we do about it? I know for us i will let my kids / teens have a taste of alcoholic drinks when they are in the home (and they want to)... What do others think of that one??
Also if fathers are role models for their kids - what do we model when it comes to alcohol? I like a drink as much as the next man.... 😕
We asked your question to our partners over at the Childresn Legal Centre - The Children and Young Persons Act 1933 children aged five years old and above can drink alcohol in private.
It is worth noting that we think the statement should also read "under the careful adult supervision" and that we at Dadtalk don't endorse this but are just reporting back the facts.
So is 5 far to young? Discuss.........
So is 5 far to young? Discuss.........
Well, my personal opinion is that 5 is too young. However, there is a lot to be said about how you approach this. We were at an event some time ago and champaign was offered for a toast. Our hostess offered it (significantly watered down) to my 6 year old. I was about to veto the idea, but the hostess persuaded me. Good move - my daughter took one sip and "yuck!". I bet it'll be some time before she tries again 😉
"If you can't find something to live for, you best find something to die for." -Tupac Shakur.
"Anyway, no drug, not even alcohol, causes the fundamental ills of society. If we're looking for the source of our troubles, we shouldn't test people for drugs, we should test them for stupidity, ignorance, greed and love of power." ~P.J. O'Rourk
Well thought of quotes ..but they still lead to the same ill of the society drugs, [censored] and alcohol. Funny enough people die for it and die as a result of it.
It seems to me that making children wait until they're 18 just makes it exciting - I remember the thrill we got of going in the 'offie' to buy some when we were underage. In France and Spain (and elsewhere in Europe, I expect) they introduce children to watered down a lot earlier so it's no big deal to them.
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