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we have a problem whereas we have kitted my grandaughter out with complete new wardrobe.(Gained custody in June)
We take her to her mums every other weekend straight from school... Always send her in nice clothing....She sends her home in clothing that does not fit and even her Pj's. And keeps clothing we send her in.... This leads to us having to continuously buy new clothing!!
What do we do?
Hi Smallnanny
This is a common problem, my advice would be to send her in the clothes she is sent in, you can change her in the car or take her home first and change her into the clothing the mother sends.
The other option is to shop for outfits from places such as Primark, Asda or even eBay...you can pick up clothes very cheaply, and send her in these. It's a sad situation and these mothers should be ashamed of themselves.... but if they had any shame you wouldn't be in your present situation.
This week, we sent her with lovely clothes, and her own suitcase(she's a big girl now and doesn't need the stress) We sent her dressed lovely and sent another change of clothing. Told her when she changes, put clothes back in suitcase(does not matter if dirty)
seemed to work well, no stress for anyone x
She looked nice whole weekend x
Hi There,
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It's lovely to hear that she has managed to look after her clothes while with her mum and come back with them, I bet she loved the process of taking her own suitcase and looking after her things for herself, well done hopefully you have resolved the issue without needing to get into arguements.
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GTTS
We sent her with her own suitcase last visit(was a bit dubious) but seemed to work well,(it all came back this time) It made her feel grown up as she chose her own clothes for the weekend, she said she wants take her suitcase again the next time... really pleased that it eased the stress off the child(THEY REALLY DON'T NEED THAT ON TOP OF IT ALL). She's growing up and getting fussy regarding what she wants to wear, so am pleased for her that there's no pressure!!
happy days x
Glad that worked out well, I think that's definitely a solution that other dad's in the same situation for use.
It deffo worked and took the stress out of it for the child, which is the main thing x
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