[Solved] Cafcass ( massive issue)

I don't think there's any exams, you will be assessed by the course tutor as it progresses I think. I would imagine there will be discussions about certain behaviours and how changes can be made, as long as you get involved with the course and the discussions and can show that you are thinking about what is being said and contributing to the course, you should be ok.

Hopefully there will be others that have direct experience of the course that can share their experience with you.

Thank you so much mojo for you help and support ,
Will keep you updated ,

Hi Mojo and every one ,

Had a Direction hearing thing morning ,

To remind you cafcass recommended to move contact from supervised to supported contact
And recommended that I take ( Domestic abuse prepetator programme) to learn more about my behaviour and controlling and that which will take 6 month ,

Judge asked cafcass officer if I agree to take it and she said it seems yes from my understanding,

Then judge spoke with me and I said I will take the programme but i want to know what should happened after the 6 month if I make progress in terms of spending more time I mean,
I said I don't want to waste 6 months and after the course nothing will happen if I made progress,
He said that Iam right ( you don't want to waste 6 month if this programme will not make any progress)

His decision was to adjourn this hearing for 5 weeks untill I take suitability assessment to see if this course will benefit me or not and to understand more about the course ,

And he put everything on hold interms of contact,
The current contact and arrangement to stay the same which is supervised contact and to wait untill next hearing after 5 weeks and if iam suitable to have the course then he will decide how the contact will be during the 6 month,
If I'm not suitable then he said he will make the decision interms of the contact ,

My questions now why the judge didn't move the contact to supported contact during those 5 weeks as me and the other party agreed to move it to supported contact And cafcass recommended that why he decides to wait untill to see if iam suitable to take the course or not ???

Also I can't understand what means suitable ??
When I will be suitable and when I will not be ??
And in my case is it good thing to do all my best to be suitable ?? To take this course and move things forward ???
Or it's better to be not suitable and don't waste 6 month of my life the end of it will change nothing??
What is suitable and not unsuitable please ,
Sorry if my questions are stupid,

Ya forget to say judge actually said we both are intelligent parent and love our son so much,
And said to my ex soliciotor that the father doing his best as he can to reassure your client ( he meant that I will not remove my son from this country )

Please mojo and every one can help tell me what do you think about what happened today ,

And what should I do,

Many thanks in advance

The courts are always very cautious, it's not unusual for them to keep contact at the same level whilst they look into something.

Deciding whether you're suitable is the same as being assessed to see if you will benefit from the course. They will want to know if you understand why you have been referred to the course and if agree with the reasons why you were referred. With courses like this, they expect that the person accepts responsibility for the things that they did to cause the problem.

Only you can decide if you are able to do the course and whether it will help you. Nobody can give you a guarantee that if you do it you will get the outcome that you want at the end of it.

If the judge understands that you love your son and are doing your best to reassure your ex, that is a good sign that he will want to see this case go well for you and your child.

All the best

Hi Mojo,
Thank you for your answer ,
So you think it's normal for the judge to keep contact at same level untill he looks at my suitability,
The thing is I pay over £70 per hour and it's too much money and judge never put this in his consideration.
I really can't understand why he didn't move it as he know that iam desperate to move contact forward ???

In terms of having the DAPP course I know it's only me who can decide to have it or not ,

Iam not really sure of this to be honest,
I don't know why I should take Domestic abuse course and the main concern for my ex is me removing our child from this country asI reassured her I will not do it and done alot to prove that as mentioned on my previous posts,
How learning about behaviour and controlling will reduce the risk of me abducting my son.

My important question here is ( what is the impact on me if I admited I put pressure on my ex and I was controlling and that affected her and our son ) as you said I have to admit and take responsibility of my previous action to be suitable for the course but ( how will that impact in my future if I admit yes I was abuser and I want the course to change my behaviour )...
Will the judge look at me as I am bad person and I admited i was abusive

I really don't want to admit I was controlling or abusive because i wasn't but they see I was.

And what if i found unsuitable to have the course??

Is it a bad thing to be unsuitable to have the course that cafcass recommended it ???
And what do you think what will be the judge decision if I found unsuitable ??

I really don't know what to do to take the course And if yes what will be the likely contact arrangement during the 6 month from the judge point of view ?
Will he follows cafcass recommendation to move contact from supervised to supported ???
I mean is it possible to move contact to supported if iam taking a court like this ( DAPP)

And if I found unsuitable what will be the court and cafcass reaction ??

What will you advice me please to take the course or not and how that will affect me in the future ??

Is it good thing or bad thing ?

Is the judge waiting to find Ian suitable or he actually wish that I will not be suitable.

Sorry for my lots of questions they maybe the same but I am so lost and I don't know what to do when I get the referral .

Thank you for support