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Evening all.
First post for me, after some advice with my lad.
He seems dis interested in himself.
I'm trying to get him involved in after school activities, weekends etc and so far have managed karate which afyer 8 weeks he finally wants to do it on his own free will.
Ive asked wether he wants to try things, ice skating/hockey (he can roller blade) swimming, just activities that are readily available.
He just seems to want to sit and watch TV
We go out regularly for bike rides (I'm a biking fan) and to be honest, that's our only thing we do together.
He isn't interested in tinkering in the garage or diy
He has friends who all do things so he's almost like the odd one out.
I don't want to push him in to anything but i feel I just need to take him somewhere and hope it catchs on, I feel like I'm failing him in someway as he just seems bored. Either that or he genuinely just likes chilling out during the weeks because school is tiring him out.
Sorry for the lengthy post, my girlfriend says the same but says im not doing anything not wrong and we can't force him to do things he doesn't really want.
Thanks alot guys
Hi There,
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How old isyour son?
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it can be quite normal for kids to just slob, sometimes it can just be a phase that they are going through, unless he is showing any signs of being depressed, then I would be too concerned, you have your bike rides and karate, so he will at least do things. Where does he watch TV is it in the main living area or in his room, if in his room, you could try and encourage him to come and watch tv with you, or sit with him and watch.
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GTTS
He's six and it's the TV downstairs he watch's.
He doesn't have any real focus or drive towards a certain subject.
Some kids love football, he likes bits of all sorts and it's hard to find something he can really knuckle down with like some of his friends do, either that or its the parents choice!
It's not clear from your message that there is anything wrong with your son, personally I wouldn't read too much into how different he might be from other kids, it just sounds like he may be an introvert, and there's nothing wrong with that, it just means he has different strengths compared to other kids.
The other day I took my son to the pool expecting that he'd want to go crazy on the water slides, but instead he just wanted to sit down watching people in the pool, so I just gave him a big cuddle and we both sat there for 10 minutes just doing nothing, and it was great !
What would the strength be? Watching TV, being quiet majority of the time?
Ok granted he may be quieter but I thought kids of that age are normally full of beans and on the go.
I Know I was when I was that age, I just don't want him to miss out on things that's all.
Being quiet on the outside doesn’t mean he is quiet inside, he might be good at observing and using his imagination to create stories. Being quiet and good at observing can also be a useful trait for being a good leader, because people are more likely to want to follow if they feel you listen to them, rather than dictate to them. I don’t really know what it is, but I’m 100% sure there is something he is really good at.
I think the way you find out is to give him honest praise, focus more on the things he does well and less on the things you’d expect him to do, that way he gains trust and starts opening up more, and I bet there is a treasure trove inside his head that you’re just not able to access yet.
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