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Its real difficult this, i've always been good and fair to the kids taking into account their ages. Shes even had him delete me off my 11yr old sons xbox and blocked me on whats app. I would hardly message at all other than i love you bro or looking forward seeing tomorrow, ask your mum what she like of you all ( the kids, never got answer but i got her something anyway off them )
Just don't get why there is this need block me from seeing them 🙁
So as i can't message her as she wishes me to make contact through her dad, i asked the question is she prepared to go through mediation to resolve the issue around contact.
The response was that her solicitors have advised against it due the nature of our relationship.
There was no DV involved so i dont get that? As mediation doesnt have to take place in same room etc?
Is this right? Can she just skip mediation? I was also then informed i shall be hearing from solicitors in due course.
I find it all a bit difficult this as she has a history of lying.
Hi there
The response from her solicitors is very telling, as the only reason that mediation would be accepted as inappropriate by the family court, is when there has been previous, provable DV. As she has a solicitor, she has either applied for legal aid, citing DV, or she is paying for it herself.
Your only options now are to wait to hear from her solicitor, or to go ahead and make the application yourself. It's possible that her application for legal aid could be turned down, if there is insufficient evidence of DV.
The "hearing from her solicitors in due course" probably means they're waiting for confirmation that legal aid has been awarded before acting for her. I would ask the Dad for the name of her solicitors so that you can correspond with them, as you're not prepared to wait, whilst contact with your children has been stopped.
You don't need the name of her solicitors to make the application, can you print off the email/message as proof that mediation had been refused? You can send that in with your application, or take it in person and explain at the desk what the situation is regarding mediation.
All the best
Hi there,
I've asked for details of solictor but the message has been ignored. What would I ask them if they were to give it to me?
I've read about legal aid for DV as i've had the info sent to me, none of the relationship comes under that. Was just a complete breakdown of our relationship over years. She always accussed me of having affairs when i was late from work, would text me abuse who i was with and what i was doing with whom. I just had enough and called it day, but its seems to have turned on to me.
Her advice seems wishy washy to me, ringing the school to say i have no contact to which they can't enforce as there is no court order. Advised Social care visit my new home and after speaking with them they would not sanction as no safe guarding issues.
She only rang the school stop me going my daughters sports day next week, so im at a loss with what i do now. I dont want to make any situation worse, but i want to see my girl at sports day.
Feel im up against a brickwall as can't afford to proceed with anything and would appear i can't get legal aid.
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