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Not really sure how to put this so ill start fromt the beginning
i had a son 6 years ago and when he was 2 me and his mum split up, it was quite amicable until one day we argued and she punched me and scratched me to which i pushed her off me and left , she then called the police and reported me for hitting her which i didnt , any way i went to the police station told them the truth and nothing else happened they could see i was telling the truth the problem is that stays on my record , i have been split up from her for about 4 and a half years she has moved on an is living with someone and i have moved on we get on ok we are civil and can talk if needs be , i pay child maintance and have a full time job i have my son every other weekend with no issues
now i am seeing someone else and have been for about 4 months its going really well she has 2 kids from a previous relationship and i have met them
the problem is that last month some one has phoned social services and told them they fear for my new girlfriends childrens safety and that i am a violent person ( i previously have been done for assault on a police officer and battery 3 years ago) i am not a violent person and have changed my lif around i made a mistake we all make them jus some worse than others
social services have got in touch with my girlfriend and she went o see them and the social worker was very nasty and rude and mentioned to my girlfriend spliting up with me serveral times and if anything where ever to happen they would take her kids striaght away ??? she was also adding her personal opionion which i didnt think she could do i thought she had to be professional ?
she told my girlfriend i would do it again maybe not this month or year but i will ? i dont know how she can say that
she also said i pose a threat to her and her children ???
if that is the case how come i have my son everyother weekend on my ow and everythig is perfectly fine
the person who made the phone call was annonymus but i have a good idea it is my ex
what happens if she phones again and lies , im worrie they will try take my girlfriends kids and i would never want to put her in a postion to let that happen 🙁
Hi there 🙂
I think what you should do is either telephone and ask to make an appointment to call in and speak to the manager, or call in with your girlfriend and ask to see whoever is in charge. I think you're right, it's very unprofessional to make that kind of judgement. You can make a complaint about it and perhaps if they meet you you will be able to put your point across and explain that you feel that your ex has been the one to report you. Obviously if you decide to do that you will need to make sure that you are calm and reasonable in your approach...it's reasonable that they should check on any risks to children that are reported to them, we would expect no less, but to make the kind of statements the Social Worker made about you is out of order!
Everyone is entitled to a second chance and I have no doubt you paid a heavy price for what you did... As you say you have learnt a lesson and have turned your life around.
Best of luck 🙂
I agree with NJ to make an appointment to see the SS Manager to discuss what has been said and if necessary tell them about the changes you have made.
I do know of cases where there is violence and SS have told the violent partner to leave. from the sounds of it you are not even living together she is being over cautious, the relationship is going well, but you don't know what will happen in the future in any event and given the reasons that SS are saying, basically that means you should not be having your own son, nor any future children ...if you want any! 🙂
...Yes you shouldnt haveyour past held against you for ever more... As long as you show you have moved on and made changes then you should expect to be treated as anyone else! 🙂