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So my eldest, who is 8, has only been back in school two days and has told us she has been receiving death threats already. She told her teacher, who just brushed it off with an attitude of '8 year olds will be 8 year olds' but i'm fuming.
The school is lucky it's a closed up for the weekend as i'd be there now getting this sorted. First thing Monday morning before I venture to work i'm getting this nipped in the bud. I don't give a [censored] if you're 5, 8 or 38, a threat is a threat, especially when the threat is i'm going to kill you!
Oh before you ask it's all over the fact my daughter is friends with a girl that the bullies don't like, pure and simple. I'm giving the headmaster one chance to sort it, it it happens again I will pull my daughter out of the school until that bully is disciplined appropriately.
Not being too hot headed over this am I? Has anyone had to deal with similar things in the past?
You're not going to like my response but I would say that you are being a bit hot headed. It's horrible how mean kids are to each other but they change with the direction of the wind. I agree it needs nipping in the bud but I would start with the form tutor, explain that it is not acceptable and that you would like her to act upon it and to monitor the situation.
Changing schools would be a little drastic under these circumstances and it's not uncommon for children to argue and be mean to one another. I would say that it comes down to how the school handle your complaint and see what transpires. If you're not happy with the outcome, look at the school's anti bullying policy to make sure they have stuck to their guidelines.
My son was very badly bullied for an extended period of time that did indeed result in a move, this isn't a decision to be taken lightly as it disrupts their education and social development.
I'm not surprised you're fuming though, it's so upsetting when your children are distressed. I hope your daughter is okay and has a good weekend. 🙂
Thanks for your response. I really should have mentioned that the bullying has been going on for a few years for the same reasons. My daughter has been friends with this girl since they were in nursery together so it's been a good 4 years, yet the bully really doesn't like this girl.
My daughter lets most of it slide but death threats is a completely different level.
The school should have an anti bullying policy and should certainly be following this up and stopping it.
The school should have an anti bullying policy and should certainly be following this up and stopping it.
Yeah they do. Turns out this girl has said the same to someone one so the deputy headmaster had three complaints about the girl this morning. He's dragging them out of class to get this nipped in the bud today, so we shall see if it carries on or not.
If it does stage two in the procedure is the headmaster writing to the parents so lets hope it doesn't come to that.
That's good they're acting upon it 🙂