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Hi, my story is one day Out of the blue my partner came back from a night out with a mark on her neck. I queried it and she blew up saying she's not happy we had been trying for another baby for a number of months, any how. We have a 5 year old child together.
She kept asking for space and time etc. A week later came to a head and split up. A few days following this I had a strange feeling and went round to discover her with another man.
This was about 7 months ago.
Upon meeting this lad he was threatening and during times of arguments between me and my ex, he has on numerous occasions messaged me yet again thinking he is he-man.
I have recently been led to believe he either doesn't bother with his own son or isn't allowed around him much.
Where do I stand on this matter?
If he isn't allowed around on his own child he shouldn't be around mine.
Any advice welcome
Hi and welcome on here.
I think the first thing I would do if I was in your position would be to have a word with Childrens Services to see if they are aware of any issues. Make sure you keep all texts (transcribe them into a document - phones have been known to lose them).
Hi wtfdad,
I have recently been led to believe he either doesn't bother with his own son or isn't allowed around him much.
I guess you need to find out if this is gossip or actually true - It may be innocent and just that this guy is struggling with access to see his son. Children Services would be a good place to start, if they are able to tell you any details. I can understand your concerns - you want to make sure that your child is safe.
Have you tried talking to your ex about your worries ?
Gooner
My partner got together with a man who is threatening me and has been done for domestic violence.... he is not allowed to see his daughter
I would recommend you visit a solicitor who can arrange for a prohibited steps order to be put in place if you feel he is a risk to your child s safety.
I know a very good solicitor who unlike most is very honest and reasonable in cost!
feel free to email me
EDIT by moderator - please use Private messaging
and i will give you her details.
Hi Seasider,
You might want to remove your contact details as they may identify you or your child.
Former partners have been known to look on boards and it is contempt of court to identify your child in family law.
Regards,
Dave
hi seasider - I've removed your email adress, DaveR is correct (and it would come up in a google search), plus you'd probably get spammed by publishing your email address online.