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hello,
i am looking for help and advice, my children started to talk to me about abuse they are suffering at home from their step father. its not the sort of abuse that is going to see them killed or leaves visible scars just the odd bruise which could be put down to wear and tear of a child growing up.
They started to tell me how their step father makes them touch electric fly swats and how he puts them outside and kicks a ball at them as hard as he can.
i have tried to contact social services(148 phone calls and two emails in 8 days) but nobody seems to get back to me. they opened a case but said because the likely hood of my children being killed they don't know if they can help.
their mother also cut off all contact as soon as i raised concerns with what the children had told me.
please find it in your hearts to help i'm losing my mind to think my children are being hurt. thanks
How old are your children den?
This is shocking and I can well understand why you are going out of your mind... Social Services are being negligent and have a duty of care for children that are suffering from physical, emotional or psychological abuse. I think you have a couple of options here, you can contact your MP as a matter of urgency to complain about the lack of care from SS, also you could telephone the police and report the stepfather for assault.
You can also call the NSPCC and ask them to help.
Also speak to the school and ask if their pastoral care worker can speak to the children, and may also be worth contacting Action for Children (used to be NCH).
thanks for the advice i have contacted the nspcc however they said as long as the children are not going to be killed there is nothing they can do. disgusting if you ask me. will try contact my local mp i never thought of going down that path. thank you very much.
I agree with Actd - engaging with the school pastoral care worker about your concerns would be good way to go. They would be able to spend some time talking to your children in a non pressured enviroment and get to the bottom of things. If things do need to go futher then having the added weight of their school could help.
Hope this helps.
Gooner.
I agree with everyone's advice. Definately keep a log of everything the kids say, dates when they are with your ex etc. Take photographs of any injuries too. Be strong, it's hard. I have been through similiar with my ex and his partner, so I know what a difficult situation you are in.
How's it going a few weeks later? I've been going through something extremely similar for the last two years, feel free to message me if you want a chat.
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