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Just looking for some information on whether i have the right to know the name of my ex wife's new partner?
I have suspicions as to why she will not disclose his name to me as i am sure he was one of her clients this time last year and in actual fact has abused her position as project manager for a supported house for ex offenders. Now if i am correct on this, which all points to, she could lose her job and never work in that line of work again. I am not saying i am going to run to the funders and authorities about this but why withhold his full name from me if she has nothing to hide? I have moved on myself and have spoken to my ex about my new partner and have been willing to disclose information on my new relationship but my ex seems to like to use underhand tactics to find things out, like spy on facebook through mutual friends etc and even had the bare faced cheek to put in a friends request with my new partner even though she does not know her and then remove the request. i spoke to her about my new relationship out of respect as once we became something more serious it was clear that she would eventually meet my 2 boys and spend time with her. Why is the same level of respect not being shown?
I do have concerns as to who this guy is and what his background is as i am sure any father worth his salt would and although i am not going to run around checking this guys background out surely after nearly a year of separation it would be respectful for her to disclose his name and agree to letting me meet him. I have asked on several occasions but been told no by my ex! Do i have a legal right to know the full name of the man that is spending more time with my children than me?
In the mean time i have recently been having issues with my 3 year old nearly 4 now when he comes to stay. he has recently and for no apparent reason said he, doesn't like me, and he, doesn't like coming to stay with me, on the weekends. I understand kids pick up things and hear things and dont really know what they are saying but this has been an ongoing issue for the past month or so. He says these things at random moments so its not like he is saying it when i have told him off for something and acting out of spite so i am at a loss really and dont really want to think that he is being subjected to hearing stuff from my ex and her partner whether directly or just from over hearing things said. I have tried to address this with my ex but she shrugs it off and doesnt seem to be that bothered by it.
All this has caused me grave concerns and i am at a loss as to what i can do about her new fella or about my child's behaviors recently.
Help!
Hi
I don't think you have any rights to know who your ex's boyfriend is - if you have concerns for your sons welfare, then you could let childrens services know and they may be able to do a background check if they have any fears.
As for your son's behaviour, it may be a way to get a reaction from you and to get some attention. You could try speaking to him to see if he can express why he's saying these things, or possibly get him to draw how he feels with you and how he feels at home, or you could try asking him to tell a soft toy (or glove puppet) how he feels.
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