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Hello Chaps, wondering if anyone can shed any light on my current situation.
I have been separated from my ex since October and now in my own home, my children want to live with me as she just isn't putting them first before her new friends or job.
I have been told that if I wanted to keep them with me that I could and that the police would be called to see if the kids are ok and we'd have to then go from there.
I have requested numerous times to go to mediation or to talk on our own as she has spent the last two years ruining me to all around her so figured she might want to do it on the down low.
Just want to know if anyones done this, where I stand?
I absolutely want custody, the kids feel cared for with me, I absolutely would still seek mediation to put proper plan in place for the future of our kids. She continues to lie about me and the kids hear some of it and its only harming them in the long run.
Anyone?
How old are you children? If they have been living with their mother since October, then if you take them to live with you, you facee the possibility that the police will be called and that you'll face charges, or she'll go for a non molestation order. It could certainky make it a lot harder for you. If she is refusing mediation, then get the mediator to sigh of on the form and you can then go for a child arrangement order - either for better acces, or you could try for them to live with you, but that will be an uphill struggle as the courts generally don't change residency unless there is the risk of serious emotional or physical harm.
Actd is correct, but depending on the ages of your children, their wishes and feelings may carry weight.
I wouldn't just keep them with you, do it through the proper channels. Try mediaiton, if she won't attend or agree, the mediator will stamp the page from the C100 Child Arrangement form that will allow you to make an application.
Best wishes
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