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I am concerned about my children because of my ex decisions and I need to know what to do. I split up with my ex a few months ago now she has a child from a previous relationship who I have raised since he was 6 month old. She then got pregnant and I had my first boy 18 months ago. After that we split up because she was always meeting other guys behind my back. This then lead to me being told I can't see the first child and caused problems with her always wanting more money and continually harassing my parents. Any way after a period of time I knew she would push me out like the first father so that it was easier for her to move on with a new guy. So I tried to sort things out and we got back together for a while. Then she got pregnant again and I wasn't sure the baby was mine I then had a breakdown and we ended it properly. Before she gave birth to the new baby she had already met a new guy who moved in with her and my boys and she made things very difficult to see them. Anyway long story short she is on housing benefit and has the other guy living with her and I don't want another guy around my kids and I don't want her loosing their home because he works full time. She also makes bad decisions like leaving them with a friend who is drinking or let's them in a car that is uninsured. So I have written a letter of an agreement stating what I would like to happen but she refused to sign it and now I am left wondering why and I can't see my kids because when I go to see them she always screams and shouts in front of them. Also she wants me to take the baby that I am not sure if he is mine
Hi there,
The first step in resolving these issues would be to attempt mediation.
If you are unable to agree, you can then consider making an application to court. Mediation is mandatory before a court will accept an application.
Good luck
As Yoda has said mediation will be your first step. If this fails then you can apply to the court for a Child Arrangements Order for contact and would need form C100 for this. You would also need to fill out a supplementary form C1 to tell the court about the risks to your children.
You can also apply for a declaration of parentage for the youngest child. Which is form C63.
I wouldn't worry about her personal circumstances concerns housing benefit, but if you have any concerns about the suitability of her new partner you can raise these with her in mediation and in court.
However if there aren't any safeguarding issues with him it's difficult to stop him being around your children.